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XP from TIP - I don't even know how to respond
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Re: XP from TIP - I don't even know how to respond
I always wonder about people who call MUD, and maybe now is my chance to ask. Two things I wonder....first: Do you feel if you give an answer to this, you'll feel like you've been duped by an internet faker? Do you think that will make you look dumb?
second:
Why do you assume this is in particular fake? Do you think something like this could never happen?
"As of page 2 this might be the most boring argument ever. It's making me long for Rape Day." - Mouse
I wonder because every answer seems to open up a whole new issue which, in and of itself, sounds over the top - so yes, I guess I doubt the plausibility of this. You never know, though.
I don't care if the person is an "internet faker" or not. I answered as though she is for real over there. Just wondered what other people thought.
I always feel like MUD is a game for someone and they want it ongoing. So I always view it from that angle and I'm just not sure I see that angle here. I
Dont know. But also I hate calling mud on
Someone. Whether its obvious or not. It's just no fun for anyone. And so unoriginal.
Second question first. She has come back with more and more that she "forgot" to say. And each one adds a new level of bizarre. First time posters rarely offer up that much info unless they are responding directly to someone's question. It comes off to me as she just now thought of it and won't this make my story better.
However, I do think it is possible if not probably and that is why I will rarely call MUD when I suspect it. I could be wrong and while it could be hurtful to the person to be told she's a lying liar who lies when she's actually in a hard place, it costs me nothing to keep my mouth shut.
That might answer your first question too. It doesn't bother me. In fact, (when I am sure it's MUD) it can be rather entertaining to see where it goes. More often than not (or if it's not glaringly obvious), I will just stop engaging.
As for looking dumb, I don't need anyone's help in that arena, thank you very much. I am quite capable of pulling that off all by myself.
True story.
I don't like calling MUD because why do I ultimately care if it is real or not? If it is a good enough story to believe, I don't really care if it is fiction.
That said, I don't really think this is MUD. I think it sounds like a guy with a lot of emotional trama in his past that most likely has been repressed. That, and/or he has some sort of mental illness (schizophrenia maybe?). Messed up situation whatever it is.
It's surprisingly easy and happens for many, many reasons.
It's not an excuse, but it's not all that uncommon. The mental/emotional component of diabetes is only now getting some attention but, sadly, it's not widely considered a necessary component of the "team."
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
It becomes a catch-22 because once you fall down the rabbit hole of shiit control for whatever reason (laziness, feeling like a failure or like whatever you do isn't going to work anyway, depression, etc), it's harder and harder to crawl out because you just feel like shiit all the time. Exhausted, irritable, foggy.
I have some sympathy for her husband in that regard because I, too, treated my body like shiit for years. And nagging/mothering doesn't work. It just doesn't, even though the family/friends think they're helping.
I don't know. It's hard to explain without feeling like I'm making excuses. It follows the same path as dealing with an addict. There's nothing to be addicted to, but it's a lot of the same problems and thought patterns, including that you can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.
EDIT: Grar. I'm trying really hard to not sound condescending or "YOU DON'T KNOW ME!!!" and I think I'm failing. It's just hard to explain it to someone who hasn't faced these very unique challenges themselves.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
This makes perfect sense to me. You could also compare it to depression (even without physical health issues).
eta- I would like to clarify that I suspect MUD, not because of her story, but because of how she is telling it. She is just volunteering so much information, which seems strange for a first time poster.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
::bends over and grits teeth::
Let's just get this over with.