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PLEASE talk me down. Not a great start this morning.
I really need help with NOT calling my mother and telling her what I think right now. She is a total FB addict and today it went a bit too far.
Background: My mom and I have always had an odd relationship. When I was little we only saw each other once a month at the most, and even less before I turned 9. Since then, we've been closer to friends, but its still been awkward at times. She is just extremely immature and acts like she's about 16. She really hurt me in December when she showed absolutely no excitement or emotion over my engagement, and even said "I didn't think it was that big of a deal" and now, just as I'm getting over that, she pulls this.
This morning I log on to FB to do some lurking (yeah, I'm a creeper, sue me) and I find a status from her yesterday saying she needed a hug. I get curious as to why, so I read the comments. Apparently her dad, my grandpa, is in the hospital with serious heart problems and it doesn't look good. I will say that I have not ever been close with him in the least, but I should NOT have found out on FACEBOOK! Now I just feel awful that he hasn't even met my son, and might not get a chance now. I am angry and sad and sleep deprived (insomnia-mania last night) all at once. -_-
Re: PLEASE talk me down. Not a great start this morning.
I'm so sorry you had to find out like this. Don't call her at this very minute. No good will come out of it when you're both stressed and emotional.
People deal with stress and sad/serious situations very differently. Maybe she didn't want to worry you until she knew that it was going to be very, very serious. Or maybe it's not as bad as FB says it is. There are so many variables here that I wouldn't assume anything.
Take some deep breaths and step away from FB and the phone.
first, i don't think you should call her and make it worse. your relationship with your mom sounds kinda like mine. in the that i don't really see her. we didn't talk for 14months until xmas 2011 so anyway. if she is addicted to fb, that is probably the first person she told. yeah it sucks and i'd be super sad to hear something like that via fb.. i overread that my gma is sick.. not super sick but sick enough and i had no idea.. but it's because i'm choosnig not to be close to her.
i'm not trying to be tough on you but i think because you're not close to her or your gpa, while finding out on fb sucks, atleast you know.. that's where i'm at.
the thing is is that you can't control other people.. but you can control how you react to their childishness. don't make it worse..
I'm glad you resisted the urge and didn't call her.
great job!
I have a weird relationship with siblings (didn't know any of them until I was 18 or so), but we're all fb friends and feign being close. Anyways, I called my older sister to tell her I was engaged after it happened, and it was a nice call and whatnot. Five months later I got an email from our grandma with pictures of my "new nephew". o.O I haven't honestly made an effort to talk to her since.
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