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Umm, if this is what dating is like: I'm gonna be forever single!!!
Granted, I am still techinically married and even living with my stbx.. so before I tell my story.. please note before you flame that I am NOT looking to date...nor am I ready.. but this guy just literally fell into my lap so to speak, so we started talking and this story is just too crazy not to share.
So, I go to the gym almost every night and there's a trainer that works there.. he's super cute, great body, super hot hot hot... anyhoo, we struck up a conversation and exchanged ph #s. We started texting for a few days and he mentioned in one of his texts that he was "kinky" and asked me "how kinky are you?" So, I was like ...."uhhm, I'm not answering that question and it depends on who I am with, besides what do you even define as kinky?" Well, its a dam good thing I asked that question, cuz it turns out he is bisexual and loves having threesomes with men, 
also role playing (I would be the guy, I guess?) ... so needless to say I told him I am open to a lot of things, but that's not for me! Btw, I have nothing against bisexuals or homosexuals..to each their own... but I don't want to participate. This just totally threw me for a loop.. I wasn't expecting him to say this!! OMG has it been that loooooong since I've been dating...is this what's out there????? Shoot me now!!!
Re: Umm, if this is what dating is like: I'm gonna be forever single!!!
Well at least he was upfront about it. I had someone tell me they were dominant and asked if I was submissive. Stupid me did not know what this really meant. He send me the 128 rules for sex slaves. I did not know there were rules about this stuff, let alone 128.
I responded that I appreciated his honesty, but I was not experienced enough for this.
128 rules?!
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
That is not kinky, that is scary!!!
OMG!! Yeah it is - very scary!!!
Ohmigosh, its not just the single ones! Do you know how many married couples I know that go to "swinger" parties (i unintentionally discovered) and meet couples online?!
Theres a closed door some of us have only gotten a peek thru , and some of us are in the complete dark about
I believe it. I don't judge, it's just not for me.
Lucky me, (that's a sarcastic 'lucky') I'm not in the dark about it, that's another thing XH was into. He'd give my number out to other couples, I've gotten completely skeezy texts from strangers about bdsm. They think they're going to get you interested in it by telling you how they're going to make you their slave? Why would that pique my interest if i already said no? It's out there, and it's a total dealbreaker for me now. I can't wrap my head around wanting an exclusive relationship with someone - but then wanting to have reckless stranger sex and loan them out.
ohhh my.. I'm so naive and clueless. None of this stuff would ever even cross my mind that it could be going on.... God help me.. lol