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Too fast too soon
Last night I went out with a guy from OKC and while I did spent the night at his place ( no hanky panky of course) due to me being too tired to drive home, he hasn't stopped texting me since he dropped me off today.
One, while he was such a nice guy, my attraction towards him is stale. He had looked nothing like his pictures online, in fact he looked like he gained 20 pounds since. He's tall and muscular but his lack of gym time tells me he's susceptible to gaining a pot belly if he doesn't start lifting weights.
Two, I met his brother last night and as sad as it was, I was more drawn to his older brother than him.
Three, I can't help sensing he has the capability of becoming really needy going so far as to say that he likes me after one date.
I'm undecided whether I should continue seeing him. He is stable in terms of career and jobs. He graduated from college, works for his family and teaches baseball on the side ( he's looking to getting into the majors). However, I feel like if I continue seeing it'd be more of a pity move on my part and not because I wanted to be with him. I have discussed this with my girlfriend.
My primary problem with him is his weight. He says he's around 250 for 6'0, that's pretty decent however, he can stand to lose 20 and work on muscle mass. I'm not his girlfriend so it would be crass for me to suggest he go to the gym. I don't want to come off as superficial but I am a pretty thin girl and standing next to him, I feel out of place. I feel like I'm about to pull a Elizabeth Hurly move on the next Shane Warne.
Re: Too fast too soon
Of course??? Why of course?
Prude.
And don't go out with him. You're not attracted to him. You don't need to go on more dates to appease your skinny guilt. Just tell him you weren't feeling it and let him move on to something who likes him and doesn't hang out with him out of obligation or pity.
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