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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Would you go out with a guy that...
lived with his parents? At the age of 38 and never lived on his own... I'm afraid that's what I agreed to do today. I did not know he lived with his parents until last night and we had already agreed to meet. FML
Re: Would you go out with a guy that...
Sorry, but hells no.
Are you sure you aren't feeling feverish? Perhaps you're coming down with the flu...
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
No. I could not. It would be one thing if he had to move back in because of a fire that burned down his home and this was a temporary situation or if he moved in to care for them, but the fact that he has NEVER lived on his own is a huge red flag. You could go and uncover all the other issues that he will undoubtedly have being that he still lives with his parents and he's almost 40, but I personally would not waste my time like that.
I would call him asap and explain to him that after some thought you don't think that this is going to work out and you don't want to waste any of his time.
I told him the truth, and I'm glad I did. Why bother wasting a Sunday? I'm done wasting my time. He said that it was the "story of his life and he is cursed". Um DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT THEN!! He said he's going to buy a foreclosed house that needs to be fixed up when he gets out of debt. Dude, how are you in debt when you've lived with your parents your WHOLE LIFE? I don't understand. And he has a job that he's been at for like 14 years.
I need to stop picking guys because I clearly suck at it. Who wants to take over?
ETA: He deleted his profile. Now I really feel bad
Maybe he just blocked you?
Either way, seems like you made the right decision, particularly that his response was very "whoa is me".
Because I am a glutton for punishment I texted him to ask him why he deleted his profile. He told me 95% of woman see him living with his parents as a dealbreaker so he isn't going to bother any more. He doesn't understand why though b/c he was just trying to do the right thing. His house was broken into in 2001 and someone stole all their Christmas presents from under the tree. And his mom had lung cancer and she wanted to move. But the house she wanted she couldn't afford until her grownass son lived there and paid rent. So that's why he lives with his parents. oy to the vey
Wait, that doesn't make any sense. I thought you said he told you he'd never lived alone? How could be move back in with his mom if he'd never left?
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Yes, you are right, he lived with his parents the whole time. This is the reason that he's actually stayed for the last 10 years.
Never lived on his own? NO
Had to move back in after divorce, job loss, etc until he got back on his feet? sure.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10