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Saturday night I was officially creeped the eff out
So Saturday night I was volunteering for a function for the Cattlewomen's Association which I just joined. We put on a dinner and dance for the Cattlemen's Association. Me and two of my friends went there and our job was to serve the dinner. As we were standing there, aprons on, ladles in hand, who shows up in our food line but M-creeper flower/vase guy. I was completely floored.
There would be no reason for him to be there other than the simple fact that he KNEW I was going to be there (I had mentioned it on one of the dates). He's not a cowboy, not by a long shot unlike 99.9% of the people there. I was so creeped out and I was glad that I was with my friends and my little brother and his friends were there so I was surrounded by a lot of people I knew. I spent the whole night dodging him because it seemed like no matter where I went to mingle, he was less than five feet away. My BFF finally yelled at him to go away when he walked by and leered for probably the fifth time.
Then I got five (count them) text messages from him, which were obviously sent in a drunken stupor because I couldn't make sense of them. He sent one yesterday morning apologizing and said he felt that he acted immature and there was "no need to respond". Not that I was going to anyways, but at least he acknowledged that.
Re: Saturday night I was officially creeped the eff out
Well the good thing is that we have a mutual acquaintence so I just texted him to see if I could give him the vase and he could give it to M. My scarf (which I left in M's truck because I forgot to put it on after dinner) is just going to be a casualty of the experience. I don't like it that much to get it back.
Yup, definitely this. I hope this was the last time you have to deal with him!
I'm glad to hear that. I doubt he actually cares about the vase- it's just a way for him to prolong contact with you and force you into seeing him again.
Agreed, and that's what my friend said too. I'm going to buy him a coffee and give him the vase to give back to M. It's the least I can do for helping me avoid seeing M again.
This! Sorry you're going through this.
I would recommend carrying around pepper spray and getting a can of hornet spray to put under your bed.
1) What a freaking creeper.
2) I think it is time to tell him the following:
*Tell him you are changing your number (you don't really have to)
*Tell him to stop showing up at places, stop texting you, stop attempting to make contact
*Tell him that if does attempt to contact you and continues this stalker behavior, you will involve the authorities.
It's all very Fatal Attraction, minus the boiling bunnies (yet......)
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I am creeped out reading this! Sounds scary!!! I am not sure I would even buy him coffee since he is striving to get responses from you one way or another. If I was not worried about retaliation, I would give him back his vases in pieces.
It almost sounds like you have to play the game of being nice back so he does not get worse than he really is. I got chills up my spine as I have similar experiences with a guy like this and this is the reason I won?t date outside of friends.
I gave the vase to a mutual friend to give to him. I bought the friend coffee for doing me the favor of taking the vase back so I didn't have to see M.