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T&Ps
As I was checking FB this morning I noticed quite a few friends were writing on a guy's page that dh and I went to high school with. It was very obvious that something bad had happened to him, but no real mention of what that was. I got a message this afternoon letting me know that this guy had hung himself.
I am in complete shock about this. He has a 4 or 5 year old daughter. I don't think he is with the girl's mother, but his facebook has tons of pictures of her so I know he was very involved in her life.
In elementary school, my dad and stepmom lived a few houses down from his family so him and I were good friends for some time. He actually transferred to my elementary school in 1st or 2nd grade and since I was the only person he knew for a while, we became very close. We grew apart and hung out with different people as we moved to middle school and high school, etc but we were still friendly and would chit chat if we passed each other in the hall. Dh played football with him in high school also.
He has the sweetest mom....ever. I know, for certain, that he had parents who loved him very much and told him that often. I just can't even imagine what they are going through right now. My heart is breaking for them, his daughter, his little brother, and the rest of his friends and family. I just don't even know how someone's life gets to that point without anyone realizing that.
There were even some of his friends who wrote on his wall about just hanging out with him very recently and it doesn't seem anyone had any idea that he was in such a horrible place.
So if you have any extra T&Ps, please send them towards his friends and family.
Re: T&Ps
Wow. So sad. I'll never understand how someone who seems to have everything going for him/her can feel that suicide is the best option....and I hope I'm never in the position to understand how those poor people feel.
My heart goes out to his poor family and friends who apparently didn't see this coming at all.
So sad. Suicide is such a hard thing to grasp and difficult to believe.
T&P for you and his loved ones.
That's awful, T&Ps coming your way
We lost a guy that we went to high school with a few weeks ago. DH played football w/ him as well. It was the first family night/funeral we've attended of someone from our class. It really shook me up.
I'm so, so sorry. Many T&P for his family and anyone who cared for him, and to you of course.
I experienced something very similar when a close college friend killed himself in 2007. I remember feeling really confused and even angry at times that he didn't tell somebody. There is such a huge range of emotions that comes with processing a suicide, so make sure you are taking care of yourself and talking about your feelings when you have them. You know I am always here.