Starting Over
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
s/o Changing Your Name
Did you change your name back? If you aren't divorced yet, do you plan to?
I am trying to decide that now. I graduate in May with my bachelor's degree and I wonder if I should request for it to be in my maiden name instead of my married name. I can't decide if I want to change my name back after I get divorced. STBXH and I are separated right now but I do know we will definitely be getting divorced. I can't file for six months...gotta love the waiting periods.
Re: s/o Changing Your Name
I'm changing my name. It feels weird to keep his name, and like Mint his name is hard to pronounce (though not ethnic). It will be nice not to be constantly correcting people anymore, though I will miss the exclusivity of it.
FYI, your school may not allow you to change your name on your transcripts/degree until it becomes your legal name. I'm currently getting my master's degree, and while they were happy to change my name for me for meetings, faculty records, etc. (it's a small, intimate program), they can't change it on my transcripts until it's legal. Fortunately I don't graduate until next January and my divorce will be long final by then.
I changed my name back, we were only married for 16 months before we separated and like MCC, both of my degrees and everything were all in my maiden name.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I still carry my married name because it was too much of a pain to change and because I didn't know that I needed it in my divorce decree in order to do it. For now it makes things simple since I share the same name as DS. I definitely plan on changing it when I remarry. At least my FB can carry my maiden name.
Funny story though. Since my FB has my maiden name, Z never thought different until he had to buy my plane ticket to NY and asked what is on my driver's license. When he found out that I still have my married name he got quite pissed off about it.
oh my goddddd the more you say about that guy the more I hate him!!! I am so glad you guys broke up haha. SO GLAD!!! What a d!ck!
I was married less than six months and my married last name was WHITEHEAD so yeah, I sure as sh!t changed that back. It was obnoxious but you don't have to do it right away. It took me like 8 months to go get a new drivers license. I refused to go JUST for that, so I just waited until I got my motorcycle endorsement and I just got my name changed when I had it added. (I don't recommend doing that, it totally screwed them up and it took them over 40 minutes from when I actually got up to the counter haha)
Definitely changing it back. I can't wait! In fact, I still have my old driver's license from before the change (not expired) and I've been using that one.
As of right now, should I get married again, I don't ever plan on changing my name.
I am changing my name back. It is devastating though.... and yet somewhat bittersweet. I love my maiden name and it totally fits me and my personality so that is okay. I am devastated that I won't share the same name with DS. I am changing it because stbxh constantly mentioned that deep down he never loved me and he "pretended" for the whole 5 years so I don't feel proud to carry his name.
If I every remarry, I am keeping my maiden name as I will never change my name again.
I got my maiden name restored in the divorce decree, but I havent done it legally yet. I'm traveling abroad in a few months and I don't want to mess with changing my passport and being worried whether it will get here in time. For me, it's enough that I have my independence from him in every other way, signing a different last name on my credit card slip doesn't make that much of a difference to me.
Still and all, though, I love my dad way more than stupid ol' XH, so I'll be glad to take his name back.
i changed mine back. i had never actually changed it on my DL the whole time we were married (i hated the MVC and waiting in line there). All of my degrees are in my maiden name as well. i started my masters before i got married and i never requested to change it when i did get married. i like that my bachelors and masters are in my maiden name.
one thing i did mainly in honor of my IL's since they are such great people, our hometown put up a war memorial and my parents put me, my brother, and my father's names on there since we have all deployed, i had my name hyphenated.
Since we had no kids, I decided to change my name back. There is no ill will between us, but I just wanted my name back. In an hour I had it changed at the DMV, Social Security & the bank. For some people its a tough decision and I really only decided 2 days before my divorce was final last week to have my maiden name back. My lawyer drafted up a separate document from the divorce decree called Name Change Order. The court accepted it and sealed it.
Good luck!
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Ditto all of this, except it's my passport.
Can.not.wait to change it back officially - it's actually in our divorce filing that it will happen automatically, and then I just need to change things on my own.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho