September 2009 Weddings
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
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JA - I saw your "flameful" on ML after it was too late to respond. But seriously sister? Chill out. Your pedi's word is not law. If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times - you MUST do what works for you and Maddie. You're doing great, cut yourself some slack.
Guy - I don't know why you're grumpy this morning, but you need to turn that frown upside down. TYIA.
Re: Dear...
updated 10.03.12
If I can keep my kid alive for two whole years, you all can do it too!
Dear Coworkers,
Y'all kinda suck. I was supposed to have a party of 12 at my happy hour last night, and we had 5. Thanks for making me look like a dovchebag sitting at this big ole table with just a few of us. Way to make a girl feel like she's going to be missed.
This. Sometimes I feel bad because I truly don't know how to answer questions. I would love to break down parenting to an exact science and give step by step directions but I can't. I just kind of 'knew' what to do and trusted that instinct. If something wasn't working, I tried something new. Did I know exactly what to do in every situation? No. But I ended up with an amazing, smart and loving little boy.
Just go with the flow and everything will fall in place, I promise. If he or she doesn't eat great for a day, it doesn't mean they are going to starve. If they have a change in sleep habits, it usually will work itself out.
Im not saying don't ask for advice, because I am always more than happy to help. I just don't know how to answer sometimes because I just did what felt right for my son. I'm just saying trust yourself, you know best. And don't let every little change and misstep completely stress you out or you will drive yourself totally crazy. You need to save some of that sanity for the teenage years
Exactly -- don't feel like you can't come to us with advice, but you just need to realize that in the end, you're truly the best judge of what you need to do.
updated 10.03.12
it's true. every baby is different, and no one (not your mom, not your pedi, not ANYONE) knows your baby better than you do!
Dear people who have babies,
Please stop complaining about your babies. Yeah, they don't sleep, they cry, they spit up. What did you expect?!
Signed,
Infertile Mertile
Seriously, a facebook "friend" posts things like "I can't wait to go to work so I can get away from E." "E is 2 years old today. That's 16 more years until I'm done. Please, hurry up." "I can not stand this kid. What have I done to my life?" SERIOUSLY
I want to cuss her out on a regular basis.
This absolutely horrifies me and I will gladly cuss her out for you if you'd like. What a snatch.
There is no justice in the universe, friend. NO JUSTICE!
Also, Dear Scale,
Please, please, please be a little lighter tomorrow. I can't handle another no weight loss week. I know I'm losing inches and muscle weighs more than fat, but a lower number would really be nice to see.
Dear Robin,
Either be sick or don't. You're not sick and then fine 5 minutes later and then sick again and then fine. And if you are then take your azz to the doctor. And quit drinking after me.
Wow, wtf. I'd have to hide her posts. Sorry DD
and Dear company that finally called me about my resume,
You can't tell me to leave a voicemail with the number you left me, then let your vm fill up so I can't actually leave a vm. Now I'm in limbo, you aren't calling back, and I feel like my window of opportunity is quickly closing. Boo.
DD, I would definitely tell her off.
My Acme Box last update 3/28/11
Dear dream job I applied and interviewed for -- thank you for the rejection letter yesterday. I appreciate it, but I will admit not having a definite answer made me feel better about it than being informed I wasn't good enough for the position. Ignorance is bliss, I suppose...
updated 10.03.12
Aw, I'm sorry, MB.
My Acme Box last update 3/28/11
ouch.
Double boo. Sorry MB, I was really hoping you'd get it.
:-( Sorry
:Blog:
Dear IL who doesn't have kids & has no intention of having them,
Please stop posting parenting links on FB and saying that it's a "great article." The one today is about gender steryotypes and how you should let your son play with dolls & shouldn't dress your DD in pink. Sure, I agree with the former but I'm going to dress my DD however way I want to. I have been dreaming of having a little girl to dress up all my life. Your opinion (and purchasing her boy-ish clothing) will not change it one bit! If you had kids, you could raise them however you want. Since you don't have/want them, stop trying to push your "beliefs" on others.
Dx: Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism After 2 years TTC & failed IUs,we have our IVF baby born 9/24/11
LO#2 aka 'Miracle Baby' Orig. EDD= 9/28 EDD moved to 10/3/13
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
I'm sorry MB!
I'm sorry
Dx: Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism After 2 years TTC & failed IUs,we have our IVF baby born 9/24/11
LO#2 aka 'Miracle Baby' Orig. EDD= 9/28 EDD moved to 10/3/13
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
Booo that stinks, I'm so sorry. Their loss!!!
Aww sorry MB
DD I would def be hiding those posts! geesh
Mine
Dear Cold,
Please go away, you have been here for almost a week now, I'm ready to start feeling better, not worse. get out of my system, you are not welcome here any longer.
Dear Body,
Also when I have my follow up appointment later this week, please have gotten rid of the cysts, I really don't want to have surgery to remove them.
Thanks for bringing AF
I'm sorry MB, that sucks so bad
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Dear nurse at my doctor's office: Faxing 3 forms is not tough. Monday you faxed 2 of them so I asked you to fax the last one. Tuesday you called at 8am to say you faxed it but when I called the intended recipient, they said you hadn't. And then when I called back at 4pm, you said "surprise! I really didn't send it! I'll do it tomorrow and call you when it's done." So far today, no call. You're really ruining the "best practice ever" feeling I had about this office. Pull it together, this is time-sensitive and important $h!t.
Dear husband: Asking me the same questions over and over again only makes me feel like you are not listening to me. Asking me questions whose answers can be found on a website I requested you read thoroughly last week also makes me feel like you are not listening. "We're not on the same page" because you refuse to do what I ask you to do. I am trying to get us on the same page while you are doing exactly nothing.
Dear snow: Seriously? Seriously. Stop it.
ETA:
OMG, I forgot the best one.
Dear neighbors who broke up but very clearly are having a relapse: Having been here for 4 years, I thought our condos were pretty soundproof, having never had to hear noises of an "intimate" nature. This does not hold true if the windows are not closed. And I can only assume your window was wide open, because the entire neighborhood heard your....rousing reuniting as husband and wife. It was disturbing. Please. Please. Close windows, then get crazy. In that order.
MB that blows. I'm sorry friend
Dear Boss,
Today is your last day and I'm sad.
Dear office,
Please finish packing yourself. Thanks.
No one knows your baby better than you do. You're the one who carried her, you're the one who cares for her, you know her best. I understand the pressure, I really do, but at some point you have to ignore it and/or tell them to back off because this is your child, not theirs. And just because their opinion is educated doesn't mean that it applies to you and Maddie. Every baby is different, and every mom is different. If you feel like what they're advising you to do isn't going to work? Don't do it.
I'm not trying to make you feel bad so I hope it doesn't come off that way. I just know how stressful it is when others judge your parenting and over time I have learned that the key is to just go with your gut and do what's right for you and your child. And I try to convey that as best and as much as I can because I think it's a really important lesson to learn.
Like!
Can I ban the terms failure as a mother, parent, or wife from the board? Everyone on here is an awesome mother.
That sucks! I'll have a virtual drink with you to celebrate!