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Kuus--to answer your question
I was at the doctor's office yesterday and was scrolling through posts on FB to keep me entertained. I saw your question for your FB friends. I have a strict policy to never discuss political or controversial issues on FB (and I also try to steer clear of potty training and religion discussion on there also).
Anyhoo, here are my opinions on pre-natal testing and abortion.
Personally, I'm against it (aborting based on results of pre-natal testing). Shocking right, since I'm pro-life anyway. However, I've never been in a situation where I'd have to do the heavy lifting of actually making that decision. I think there are very few circumstances where I'd consider it though. I understand the lady's viewpoint in the article you referenced (her son has a fatal disease that is slowly killing him). I'm honestly not sure how I'd feel in that situation. Maybe I'd feel different, but from my cushy seat on the sidelines, I think I'd choose not to abort. The reason for that is that I feel there is value in every human life. Most of that perspective comes from a religious standpoint in that I believe there is a deeper purpose and meaning for every life, and maybe in a tragic situation like that, there are deeper powers at work, even if I can't see it and understand it.
From a less religious perspective, I'd worry there'd be a slippery slope tendency re: prenatal results. What would become the definition of disabled? Would then children who have down syndrome, or some other non-fatal disorder or non-painful disorder, be terminated? I can see someone terminating a pregnancy to avoid having a child suffer and die, but with something like DS, you'd be projecting your own views of quality of life onto another person. If that makes sense.
So there you go. A deep thought from someone who put her shirt on backwards this morning.
Re: Kuus--to answer your question
ESD, if I'm cool enough to be friends with Kuus you totally are. I'm kind of a loser.
As far as the question goes, for our decision-making process we were firmly in the 'abort' category for incompatible with life stuff, like trisomy 18, but for spina bifida or DS, we would've kept it.
I do think that if you feel like you can't handle caring for a DS kid, it's kinder to abort than to put it in the care of the state or take care of it yourself, which is probably super flammable. I also kind of wonder why you'd have a kid in the first place.
(this is the hypothetical 'you', not Donny 'you').
I'll accept if you send me a friend request. Just so you know.
If you friend me, I'll accept. I don't cross-contaminate FB and TIP. And what I mean by that is I don't take stuff from TIP and post on FB. (Motzie's pregnancy for example). Although, I suppose I occasionally take stuff I see on FB over here (like updates on what others are up to).
I must warn you though. I post an excessive amount of photos of my children on FB. It's mostly for the extended family living far away.
You totally have a friend request.
Ha ha ha! It must be relative. I do try to limit the photos (like, I won't post all 5 adorable pictures of the boys in the same pose...I'll try to pick the best of the bunch and post it).
Are you sure? Because I checked, and it doesn't look like I do.
edit: nm, it just showed up.