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Have we talked about this?
http://spousebuzz.com/blog/2012/02/army-spouses-to-blame-for-kia-notification-text.html
(I'm guessing it's not clicky because, well, I suck at TN.
An Army wife found out her H had been KIA via text messages and FB.
No matter how much I see spouses leak on FB all the time, it still amazes me that people would put it on FB or text her. I get that maybe they didn't know if she knew, but have a little freaking common sense and compassion.
Re: Have we talked about this?
It's clicky for me.
I cannot get over the fact that someone would send a text along the lines of "sorry your husband was KIA". Seriously? At least pick up the phone and be prepared to leave a voicemail message.
With that said, why wasn't the company this soldier was from not under a com blackout until notification was made? Don't they do that anymore? I know T was subjected to that a few times during his first deployment and it wasn't even someone from his company.
This whole situation reeks of failure in common sense and standard procedures.
the artical said they were under a communications blackout until the next of kin could be notified, but it got out anyway.
What a horrible horrible situation. I feel just terrible she had to find out like that.
I changed my name
I saw that the other day.
This is the kind of thing that makes me want to quit FB.
To be honest, this is one of my worst fears, especially this deployment. My heart goes out to her.
I guess my TN skills must be slight better than I give myself credit for.
In general I hate how so many people feel the need to hear news and immediately run to FB without even thinking about the repercussions. Especially with military news, because then it just becomes a complete nightmare of the rumor mill and he said/she said.
I think this quote from the article sums up the issue with all of that though:
"So here?s the problem with this whole thing: the Army?s casualty notification process relies on a combination of trusting spouses who do have privileged information (whether rightly or wrongly ? and sometimes they get it through no fault or action of their own ? I know because I?ve been there) to keep their mouths shut, and those that don?t have information to not speculate when something is clearly amiss."
This makes my heart sink.
I am getting more and more annoyed with people oversharing on Facebook but this takes the cake.
I also can't believe people send condelences via text. Granted when my Dad passed away I got a ton of FB messages and Wall posts from old friends but I believed at the time it was because people didn't have my number.
I'm just going to C&P my response from the thread on MF.
Exactly this. The service member should've kept his big mouth shut until river city was lifted. Blabber mouth wife wouldn't of had anything to text if her H would've followed protocol.
How terrible. It just annoys the hell out of me that those women who texted and posted on FB were spouses that she hadn't talked to in months or hardly knew, I can't stand those type of people. Anything dramatic, they just have to be a part of it. My heart goes out to Mrs. Born. I agree with PP though too, that SM made a huge mistake.
In similar news, my grandfather passed away the other day and I found out through FB when my cousin, who had not spoken to my grandparents in years after an argument, posted a picture of him with the caption "RIP Pop, you were a great grandfather, father, brother, son, soldier, and man". This is how I found out. On a FB status from a long-lost cousin. Once again, people who just thrive off of anything dramatic. Ugh.
Damn. At that point, I'd start communicating with rear-d. On DH's first deployment, I had a crazy-busy travel schedule, mostly for work. Rear-D eventually assigned someone to keep track of where the hell in the world I happened to be that week, in case they had to find me.
So, my travel itineraries were put together (flight, hotel, contact info), and emailed to DH, my parents, a few of my close friends in town, my key caller (who never responded), the rear-d commander (he asked me to, in person), and the guy the rear-d commander assigned to keep track of me.
In one of the "just before departure" meetings, I posed the question about what I should do if I was travelling. And I was told to keep them informed. So I did.
It probably didn't hurt that within the first month after DH left, I was home for less than a week, total, and my travels included two continents, three countries, and multiple states. That somewhat set the tone for that deployment... I wasn't sure if they'd still be able to notify in a timely fashion, but, gosh darn it, I was going to make sure they could find me if they needed to.
In theory, they know how to find me but the disorganization here is what I imagine will be the downfall. We have a parent unit but we fall under two others for various reasons and it makes it confusing.