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Hoping he continues to play nice
So STBXH and I are getting along exceptionally well right, it is downright scary.
He works at IKEA in the as is dept. A bookcase I have been wanting came through and was there for the 50% off sale yesterday. My mom went to go buy it for me since I was working, but couldn't get it to fit in her van. So STBXH offered to bring it over. I made sure I was home and we got it in the house. Then he moved out a bunch of his stuff in the garage and helped me move some of the large trash items to the curb. WTH? This is the same guy that was accusing me of trying to keep DS from him a few weeks ago...
We started talking about some of the things we need to figure out for the divorce. He agreed that if I kept all of the credit card debt, he would forfeit his part of the home equity so I do not have to pay him for it. He even emailed me stating such so I have it on paper at least. I want to be happy about this, but at the same time, I am waiting for the other shoe to drop. YKWIM?
If this continues, this divorce may go easier than I anticipated....
Re: Hoping he continues to play nice
I'm glad he emailed proof of what he agreed to. Mine was nice in the beginning and then he wasn't. We had a "cycle" when we decided to split (he was emotionally abusive). We fought, decided on divorce, had about a month of honeymoon behavior, and then he hauled off and put his hands on me for the first time.This was my life for over a year though with the cycling. Just get proof and don't expect the niceness to last forever. Hopefully it will for you!
I'm worried he may try the "well, I gave you this so you should do this for me." That is what I am preparing for as that is very much his style.
This. I am always cautious when XH acts that way because there is ALWAYS another motive. Just continue to act businesslike and everything will be fine.