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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
I DD'ed
The secret is out. It was me. I wanted advice on what to do. I haven't made up my mind yet but I'm not speaking to anyone besides my therapist. I'm living alone, going to work, and going home. No contact right now because my brain is confused.
I need to do this on my own in my own way.
Thanks for the advice. I am not a victim. I am not stupid. I am not naieve. I am a strong person.
I will be okay.
Any way the wind blows...
Re: I DD'ed
I had a feeling about this, and I actually was hoping it wasn't you.
Sigh.
Please see the writing on the wall and end this relationship. It's toxic to you both. Also consider something a little more intensive than a week of inpatient therapy. You really need to take care of yourself, and it seems like that's a bit too big of a task for you right now.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
((hugs))
Be strong!
(((Hugs)))
May I suggest a good book? "Self-Compassion". Please take care of yourself.
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((hugs))
Aside from what everyone has said, there are good take away items from this situation that will help you on your path to recovery. You have a situation where you recognize that you acted irrationally. This is a great topic to discuss with your therapist. Maybe in the past you wouldn't have been able to see it? Once you recognize irrational behavior, you can modify it. That is progress.
Now I may get flamed for this, but given both sides, I don't see you as a victim either. It sounds like you provoked and continued to provoke him to his breaking point. However, him hitting you was wrong and shouldn't have happened and I don't think the two of you should be together.
Keep your head up! It definitely takes time to make such huge changes in your life. Continue getting your ducks in a row so you can get out on your own completely as soon as possible. Good luck!