Starting Over
LemonLover33
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I want to divorce my therapist
I got a new one after my old one left. I've been to three sessions with her and I do not like it. I don't feel better after our sessions. I feel bad for wanting to dump her because she helped me get help right after STBXH attacked me and helped me get the resources to move. Not once did my old therapist ever say or address that I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. So I feel like she's just giving me a dose of reality. But, we just don't click. I would have to move to another practice because there's only one therapist left and it's a man which I don't feel comfortable. Bleh.
Re: I want to divorce my therapist
Switch and don't feel bad about it. I work in the mental health field and believe me, we don't take it personally. I've encouraged people to "divorce" me if they don't feel a connection.
ETA: be honest with her. Tell her that you like her upfront approach but don't feel a connection. Ask her if she can recommend anyone that has a style similar to hers. That is the best way to find a new therapist
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I would say it depends on WHY you want the break. If it is because you think you are doing well then take a break. If it is because counseling is hard and you don't want to face the issues, then listen to your inner self and continue.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I feel like I get nothing out of it. No tools. Nothing. And I brought up that I would like to overcome my trust issues and she says that I shouldn't focus on trying to get into another relationship. Um I just told her that I feel like I can't date again without trying to over come these trust issues I now have with men. I wanted to work on that and she squashed it.
I have like two months left on insurance that I don't have to pay for counseling so I feel like I need to work on what I want/need and she says no. WTF. I feel like I've gotten nothing out of the last two sessions and almost feel crappier after going.
This is exactly my main reason for going to therapy. I don't want to bring in my trust issues into another relationship. And I certainly am not even thinking about another man or dating. But I want to work on myself now, so that when I am ready to date, I can.
ETA: I have my first solo therapy appointment on Saturday with a new therapist. I am hope she is able to help me work through my trust issues.
But this may be therapist related, not therapy related. What is the harm of going to work with a new person and if you find the same problem, then take a break.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04