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Somebody stop me.
I think I'm self-medicating with retail therapy. Which would be fine if I had a shiitton of disposable income, but I don't. I also have major dental work and car repairs coming up. The money for that stuff is already set aside, and I haven't touched it, but that doesn't mean I need to haul off and buy everything I see.
Shopping makes me happy (for like 5 minutes) when I'm feeling down about stuff, and right now I feel down about work every.single.damned.day, feeling trapped and miserable here, and I also feel stressed about big picture/future type shiit such as, will Mr. Bang's business ever really take off so he can afford to pay his employees AND himself.
NONE OF THIS is helped by spending exorbitant amounts of money on Lululemon shiit. Rationally, I know this.
Someone tell me to stop.
Re: Somebody stop me.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Aww, it sucks to know that you're compensating and do it anyway. I totally understand that.
You need a different (free!) activity that you can do to make yourself feel happy.
-Give yourself a manicure
-Take Sprout to the dog park
-Color pictures with the little man
-Yogayogayoga
-work on finishing your NaNo story! (editing, etc)
-Come hang out with me - movies and snuggles on my couch are free!
I used to be really bad at retail therapy. I felt like shiit about myself, so I at least tried to make myself as pretty as possible. I made some unwise financial choices because of it (nothing I would consider major, but, still, not wise).
I could tell you to find another outlet, blah blah blah, but if you're like me, you just like pretty things. For me, I discovered the most joy in the experience came from choosing the pretty things, and so I would make online wish lists on shopping sites. I got the "high" but none of the pain. I'd tell myself I could go back and get them through the checkout process, but never did.
Yeah, I tricked myself, but whatever. I've found Pinterest scratches the itch somewhat too, but not as much.
If you're finding joy from the actual shopping/purchasing experience, then give yourself limits. Show up at the store 15 minutes before closing. Only bring cash. "Shop" at the library (my Barnes & Noble addiction is legendary). I could go on.
Writing all this down, I feel like such a lame ass.
ETA: Sigh. Scratches the itch. I fixed it. I'm tired y'all.
I do this, too.
What helps me is to shop and put things in my cart/basket and continue walking around.
Then, after about an hour or two of shopping, I go through my cart and only get one or two the items I truly want.
But I feel better because I walked around for a couple of hours with those things, like they were mine for those two hours.
It's completely silly, but it makes me feel better and I avoid spending a lot of money.
These are all really good ideas. Thanks you guys, I seriously need to pull myself together. Retail therapy has always been my downfall. The shopping cart/wish list/making it more special by limiting it will be really good for me.
BBE, missing yoga this week b/c of being sick has definitely been bad for my psyche! Crazy what a difference it makes. Can't wait for this weekend!! And, I will admit that I have been falling into this really superficial trap with yoga. Not to say Lulu stuff is bad or whatever, but it's not necessary, and it's not what yoga is about, and I don't have the resources that others may to make it a priority. Showing up looking cute before practice or having the best layers to keep warm during savasana =/= yoga. It's just fun stuff to have. I KNOW the difference but I need to APPLY it.
On the bright side, I just got a text from Mr. Bang. He shoveled my driveway and deck for me so I don't have to deal with it tonight. This is definitely a big day-brightener!!
Okay, Mr. Bang gets extra bang points. Teehee!
As for the Lulu thing...I hear you. It's hard not to get sucked in! I've been having a hard time being away too, but I don't dare practice right now. I'm freaked out by people telling me it takes 3-4 weeks AT BEST to get better from this and that if I overdo, I'll get sicker.
Have you considered doing a guided meditation or something similar in place of practice? Might still give you the warm fuzzies without the physical practice part. Just a thought!
Ha! I'm going to try and perk up enough to give him "extra points" later, hehe.
Good idea about the meditation. Not that I know where to start but ... it's a good idea! And hopefully by the weekend I will really feel better enough to practice. Definitely take it easy, the time I had pneumonia I would start to feel better, overdo it and then relapse ... your body will tell you!!
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
You can probably get stuff on Netflix, YouTube, etc. Or I can help you out if you're really interested!
BANG POINTS!
Return it!
Stay out of stores and do not shop online.
You sound depressed - have you talked with a professional?
When you feel down - exercise -- a good cardio workout will help alot - and keep you looking fit and fabulous! A bit of refocusing is needed. Can you volunteer and help those in need?