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Moving out of original/temp housing questions?
So I am moving out of my folks house in a couple of weeks and have a couple questions for those that either moved into a new place after splitting up or moved out of temp housing such as parent's place:
How close (geographically) are you to family and/or friends?
How often do you see family/parents if they are close?
I am basically starting from scratch as far as material things - so did you make sure you just had the basics on moving day and pick up what was missing from there?
For those with kids: If you and/or your LO(s) go over to your parent's/family house often (my mom will be watching DD on my work days and sometimes at their place, and we will hang out on some weekend days I'm sure) do they have their own mini set of stuff over there such as saftey kit, clothes, feeding stuff, etc?
I am even thinking of giving my folks their own diaper bag so as to not have to cart things super often - so they can just go if they need to when they have her at their place.
Am I missing anything??
Re: Moving out of original/temp housing questions?
I'll answer what I can. I live about 5-15 minutes from my friends. My family is all out of state so that's a non-issue. I made sure I had a bunch of stuff on moving day. I also planned on moving early in the day then running out to Target and spending a ton of money on general household things. Then I went back and unpacked.
If you're going to be spending a ton of time at your parents I would get the basics for their house (diaper bag, medications, some toys, etc.)
I moved out of our condo in LA and to be close to my parents and little brother in ID. I lived about 10 minutes away from them and saw them usually everyday or every other day when I was in town when I first got there. As I got more friends I didn't see them that often but I enjoy spending time with them so I usually went over for dinner/lunch, etc.
I didn't have any friends when I moved there but I ended up making quite a few and I lived about 20 minutes from them. When I move back in June I am going to rent a house with a friend and will be about 25 mintues from my parents.
I started from scratch and went to costco/target and bought supplies the first day but then just picked up things as I needed them. I didn't have a couch for about a month, didn't have a table for 6 months - I was traveling weekly for work and barely spent anytime there. After my travel died down I got a table and unpacked.
I don't have any kids but I have a dog that my parents watch frequently while I travel and she has a bag of food at my parents house that I buy and keep there, she has brushes, toys, a car seat in my mom's car, etc. I don't need to bring anything for her when I drop her off.
I live just about half a mile from my parents and I see them a few times a week. I cannot even begin to tell you how much of a lifesaver living so close to my parents is. I don't have the built-in support system of a spouse anymore so it's nice for them to be so close. We have really good boundaries, so this arrangement works well for us. I also live really close (within 15 minutes) to other close family members. The first month of living on my own was sometimes hard (lonely), so it was nice to be able to be so close to my support system.
I don't have a child, but I do have a dog (which I know is not even close to the same thing.) My parents watch my dog a couple of days a week and when I go on vacation. I found that it was much easier to bring over a set of her basic stuff for them rather than bringing stuff back and forth. For instance, I leave food over there, even though she doesn't eat there every time she visits. I can imagine that with a child this would be even more important because children have a lot more necessities than dogs do.