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Friend vs Friend
I have two extremely close friends having big events on the same day. Friend A is getting married in another state (approx 8 hours away) and Friend B is having her bridal shower that day (I am a bridesmaid). I am so torn on what to do. Friend A's wedding is small (second marriage) and they aren't having a bridal party, but I feel obligated to go to that too.
HELP!
Re: Friend vs Friend
How far is the bridal shower?
who asked first?
would you drive or fly to the wedding, what will it cost you?
I agree. Wedding trumps shower. Even a 2nd wedding. I would go to that (as long as I truly WANTED to. If the shower gives you an excuse to get out of going, that's fine.)
It's seriously "just" a shower - your friend will survive w/o you there. I assume there are other BM's to run the shower w/o you.
I dont' even see this as a "which invitation did you get first?" situation. Sometimes certain events simply trump other events.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
The shower is no more than 20 minutes from my house. To be honest, I have no clue who asked first.
I am not sure if we would fly or drive yet. Probably fly. The cost would be approx. 500 to fly plus hotel. That really isnt a concern of mine.
If the cost or distance isn't a concern then you need to go to the wedding (even if it's the 2nd marriage), it's obviously more important than the shower, and you send a gift to the shower.
I could not imagine someone not showing up at my wedding with the excuse "I had a shower the same day"
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Your friend will understand if you miss her shower, if she doesn't she's the one being unreasonable. Just let her know well in advance that "sorry, which I could but I have a wedding to go to far away that same day"
You can still help plan the shower too, you just won't be attending.
When I was getting married I had 4 showers... I told all the BMs that I hoped they would be able to make it to at least 1, but understood they all had busy lives and other obligations. A wedding is a justified excuse.
However, I would let the shower bride know asap.
Agreed.