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speaking of pets
I have 2 cats that are 12 years old. I've had one since birth, and the other for 10 years. I've decided that I do NOT want any more pets when these are gone. I love them, but they're very destructive, and for once in my life, I'd like a cat hair free, hairball puke free, litterbox smell free home.
Well, I have a friend that was just diagnosed with a rare form of cancer, and he really doesn't have anybody except for his elderly father. I might be the only friend he really has, to be honest. He has a 9 month old cat that he loves dearly. We went out to dinner the other night, and he started off by asking me how long I planned on living in my house. Well, I found out the reason is because he wants to leave me the cat in his will, and he knows that most apartments won't allow 3 pets, so he wanted to make sure I was going to stay in the house I own so I could have 3.
I've told him before that I didn't want anymore pets when these were gone, but I guess it's really important to him that he can trust someone to take his cat. I sort of ventured into the same statement during that conversation, but didn't have the heart to tell him, no, I don't want to take your cat.
What do I do? I feel heartless, but NO-MORE-PETS is non-negotiable for me.
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Re: speaking of pets
Do you have any family members that could take your friend's cat?
That is so sad.
If I were you I would google for an organization that assists with persons with his sort of cancer and call and ask if there are orgs that help re-homing.
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Along the same lines of what pps said above, I would get in touch with a rescue that your friend is comfortable with to help you rehome his cat. For instance, I volunteer with a dog and cat rescue and we have a "courtesy listing" program where people can use the rescue's resources to rehome their pets, but they have to keep them in the meantime. Since the rescue typically does not take in owner surrenders, they do not have foster homes available to take in these pets but through the courtesy listing program the owner (or owner's friend/family member/whoever) acts as the foster and keeps the animal until the rescue can help them find their pet the perfect new home. This is a pretty typical thing that most rescues do and I'm sure in this case they would definitely be willing to help IF you could foster the cat in the time it takes to find him a home.
- Martin Luther King Jr.
What a tough situation to be in! Maybe he'll be one of the lucky ones and will get healthy and be around for another 15 years at least and you won't have to worry about it?
I think in that situation, you can try and look at it that he trusts you and your judgement. I would find a very loving home for the kitty if and when the time comes and you still are holding up your end of giving the cat the best home possible - it just wouldn't be you taking care of the cat.
^This is what I was going to say.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I'm not sure where you live, but if you want to let me know we can start researching good rescues that can help.