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How soon will you go to someone's house?
I've been out with this guy once, we've texted/talked. He seems very nice and normal. I looked him up, he only has a speeding ticket, lol. I don't get any weird vibes. He invited me to his place to watch a movie tonight.
Jesus, I feel like a freaking teenager again, lol. I don't think I'm very good at this dating thing.
The day I left was just my beginning.
Re: How soon will you go to someone's house?
Personally, I'm not a homebody and I like to go out and do things. I would be weirded out more so that he wanted to sit and watch movies already than the fact that he invited me to his house to do so.
Still, on a second date I think I'd still prefer a more neutral ground.
To me "come and watch a movie at my house" sounds like "come to my house with the excuse of watching a movie, so we can move into my bedroom and have sex."
Maybe that's not what it is, but movies (in a theater) aren't that expensive. Coffee isn't that expensive. At this stage, dates should be spent talking and getting to know one another, not sitting looking at a screen together.
Speaking from experience, this is usually a guys attempt to get in your pants. I agree with MCC, suggest a public place for your second date.
I'm with the 'public place for now' bunch.
I went to BF's house on the third date. We had been talking/dating for over a month prior to that.
ETA: I would still do a public place for a second date.
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Well....I always worry that coming over to watch a movie leads to other things, quickly. It's kind of code for "want to come over and make out and we'll see where this heads?"
I try to do the actual dating thing (dinner, movie, some sort of activity) for as long as possible because I tend to get too wrapped up in the physical, too soon, but maybe that's just me. If you trust your willpower and you feel safe, I don't see anything particularly wrong with it. I just know I don't trust MYSELF, especially if I'm really attracted to someone.
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From experience...I totally agree. Keep it on neutral ground for a few more dates.
I guess I am the one to disagree here. BF and I watched at movie at his house on date number two and we've been together a year and a half and are talking about getting married next summer. So it obviously had no baring on the future or our relationship.
Did we make out on his couch? Yep. Did he try to get in my pants? Nope. Did he stop planning other creative dates? Nope. Was it because he is cheap? Not at all.
I should add though that even though we met online, we discovered at lunch on date #1 that we knew a lot of the same people. And these are people that I know wouldn't hang out with a crazy loon, and one of them lives on his (now our) block, so I knew I was pretty safe.
Some serious preconceived notions rolling in this post, but cant say that I blame you. Haha.
Had my first date with M on Saturday night. She came to my house, I cooked dinner, we shared couple bottles of wine, and we watched the UNC-Duke game. I walked her out to her car, and we briefly kissed. Never made a move towards her all night.
Now this might be different because we are FB friends through a mutal acquaintance. We had run into each other at a couple tailgates over the years but never really talked before sending each messages on FB. I assume she asked her friend about me and that she vouched as to the type of person I am.
By the way, FB has landed me a few dates. Thanks Mark Zuckerberg!!!!