I'm curious about how people feel about someone coming over to their house, not that it is all that different than going over to someone's house. I guess I feel like I err on the side of caution about this because of DS. I have to make sure that someone comes over after he's already asleep, or if it is on a weekend night sometimes he stays the night with my parents.
Also, it would make a difference to me if I knew them IRL or if I had met them online. I would obviously wait longer before having them over if we'd met online.
Often times for me though, it's such a hassle to actually go OUT to date (getting a sitter for DS, making arrangements, etc), I would have someone come over sooner than I probably would have otherwise.
Re: S/O Going to his house, how soon do YOU have someone over?
Right now I'm living with my parents so generally never, unless my parents are out of town. Also, I'm the type of person who prefers not to have people at my place and go there instead.
When I lived alone before I got married, the soonest I had someone over was a 3rd date I think, maybe even a second. We made out like high schoolers.
It depends on how I know the guy. I much prefer our dates to be on the casual side now that I am a mom to a very young toddler. I just don't have the energy to be going on extravagant dates every weekend.
I o not have people over for a while cause as a single woman with a child I don't want to people I do not trust on a decent level know my address.
When I go over to a guys house for the first time I let him know that I will be making another person aware of where I am and what time I will be home. I usually say my babysitter has to know where I am and I need to be back by 11pm.
I may be paranoid, but also I can't really stay out to late anyway with a child.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Maybe I'm just paranoid, I just have this fear that one day I'll be looking out my window and one of those clingers is gonna be parked outside my house waiting for me.
Good point! I still am upset that my clinger knows where I live.
I think BF came over to my place on the 4th date. We had been dating about a month or so at that point. I think it was an okay time to have him come over - it really depends on the person, how you know/met them, what feeling you get from them, etc.
If I had a kid, though, I would probably wait longer.
I completely agree!