September 2009 Weddings
aStorie2009
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Advice - Mom Issue
Edit: Thanks for the advice ladies 
DH & I talked more about this last night and if she actually goes through with this (again who knows since she first mentioned it 2 1/2 years ago) and needs a place to stay we are going to be firm and say a couple nights and that's it. If she knew she wanted out that long ago, she should have been saving for this.
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Re: Advice - Mom Issue
Seriously.... how old is your mom? ?_?
updated 10.03.12
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"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
Gah she sounds like my mom.
DO NOT LET HER STAY WITH YOU.
We let my mom stay with us for 6 months (while we were engaged) and it was a nightmare. She completely ignored our "rules" about guys, she didn't help with the housework ever. She did pay her part of the bills on time but that was about it.
Never again.
Ditto.
Stand up for something you believe in.
I know its your mom, but I'm just going to be blunt because its what I do.
It sounds to me like your mom uses people to get whatever she can from them. She uses a man until she is no longer satisfies and then just moves on to someone else. If she doesnt have a REAL reason to divorce your stepfather #2, then I dont think you should support her either emotionally or by physically letting her stay with you.
She's just going to use you for what she wants now and when she's not happy with how things are going, shes going to move out on you and probably damage your relationship too.
Your mom is an adult. If she's adult enough to get married, and want a divorce, she's adult enough to handle the consequences on her own, not depend on her child to be there for her.
My sentiments exactly.
updated 10.03.12
Ditto the other ladies. Your mom is a grownup. She made her bed, let her lie in it.
And do not let the bed she lays in be in your house, either.
She sounds like my mom too, and I am very frustrated for you. Stand your ground, though, and don't let her move in. Nothing good will come from that at all.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
As hard as it may be don't let your mom move in with you. My parents come into to town very little and Jay and I get a long great with them and their presence still can be tiring; I can't imagine what it would be like with them there all the time (which I feel terrible saying since it is still technically their house, but it's the truth).
If you go over the Family Matters you can see tons of stories about how parents/siblings/best friends/whoever moved in "just to get on their feet" and it deeply affects the marriage and the relationship with that person and things rarely turn out well.
Offer your mom assistance in finding an affordable apartment, help her look into getting government assistance if she qualifies and support her emotionally without opening up your home to her. I think things will turn out better for your relationship in the long run if you do so.