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Our Angel baby 6/10/08 @ 6w6d
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? for those divorced w/kids- re: last name
Papers were filed on Monday and I am requesting to go back to my maiden name. My married name is difficult to say and spell and my maiden name is much easier.
I am not concerned about having a different last name than my daughters, afterall, it is just a name and doesn't mean I am no longer their mother. However, a few people have brought up situations that might be awkward. I.E. school meetings with teacher and introduced as Mrs. DaughtersLastName. I am ok with that an plan on making the correction if and when that happens.
Have any of you run into situations that were awkward or uncomfortable because of this? How did you handle it? Thanks!
Our Angel baby 6/10/08 @ 6w6d
Re: ? for those divorced w/kids- re: last name
My son is not yet in school so I have not had the experiences yet. I am sure some people will say my name wrong because of DS's name but at the same time, it is very common for parents to have different names.
More than half of my married friends did not take on their husband's last name; they too share the same situation even though they never divorced. I never really heard them complain about this topic.
Yes, I thought this exactly and this is one of the reasons I don't see it being a big deal.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Same here.
YW
I kept my maiden name, and my kids have dh's name. No one has ever questioned why, or suggested that I was not their mother. I have never been made uncomfortable by the 'issue', which I think is a nonissue. They're my children, I'm their mother. We're close.
So many families have so many different situations with names that I think you should just do what you are most comfortable with. Correct them if you want, don't if you don't care.
So my deal is this: My mom married my step-dad when I was 10. I kept my bio-dad's name and my mom took my step-dad's name at that point. The funniest situations were when someone would call my step-dad Mr. MyLastName. We still laugh about those.
It is a personal choice. I know most women have no trouble with it, others get annoyed because in places like schools or hospitals you may have to "prove" you are the mother through documentation.
I was seperated at the time of my daughter's birth and I gave her my maiden name, then changed my name back. In my situation I did not want my child to share the last name with my X because of his actions/reputaion.
Like I said I do not think most people have a big issue with this. Personally I think it is slightly easier to have the same name.