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Lurker needs TIP help-acquaintance affair(?)
This might be kind of long, which I aplogoize for, but I need some common sense advice from you hella-awesome TIPers.
On my way to Target, I saw an acquaintance of ours running/walking with a lady who isnt his wife. I slowed down, rolled down the window and started to say "Good morning Bob (not his name)", as I was doing this, he pulled the lady close to him, grabbed her butt and looked like he was about to kiss her. When he realized I was there, he let go of her and turned to look at me. He kind of waved and I just sped off.
If this was the end of the story, I would just file it away as a weird, awkward moment and not say anything since its not really my business.
BUT he called DH at work to get my phone number and has called me 4 times. He has also "friend requested" me on Facebook. He told DH that he wanted to get my opinion on a gift for his wife and thats why he needed my number. DH thought that was really odd, since I'm not close to his wife. We go to church with this couple and are friendly with them (we've gone to their Christmas parties, DH has went out and had a beer with "Bob" a few times, etc) but we're not what I would really consider friends.
I missed his first couple of calls because I was in Target. Once I talked to DH and realized it was "Bob" who was calling, I just ignored the calls. The only message he's left has been "Hey Kirkgirl, it's Bob. Can you give me a call at blah,blah,blah? I need to talk to you"
Do I call him back and say "Hey, I'm not going to say anything to your wife about you and Lady Runner"? I dont really want to hear his excuses, but (stupidly) I feel rude about not returning his calls. What sayeth TIP?
Re: Lurker needs TIP help-acquaintance affair(?)
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I don't think I'd want to hear excuses either.
If you've already decided not to tell his wife, then either let him sweat it or try to leave a voicemail saying you're not going to tell her anything so he stops bugging you. Did you accept the FB friend request? This guy is obviously panicking.
Personally, I would not return his calls. He's obviously panicking right now, but, eh, he kind of deserves it.
If you call him back, he'll just lie or want you to listen to his excuses, which would really piss me off. I wouldn't bother.
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I'd wait to return his calls until you can set up some kind of recording device. If you're just an acquaintance to them, it's going to likely seem odd and out of left field if you just bust out with the information. If you do decide to tell, having something to back you up will make her more likely to believe you, and really what's the point of telling if it's not in a credible way?
I love this. Do this.
lol
Oh Kuus, you evil genius, you. I love this.
I'd never have the balls to do it. But I love it.
Well, we will probably see them on Sunday at church. So I could just play the recording during the coffee time meet & greet
I'd leave a message asking him if the 4 messages, calls to my husband, and FB request were about the woman I saw him groping and kissing outside Target. On his home answering machine.
That's pretty funny. I like that idea.
Seriously though, his wife deserves to know. Instead of realizing he's about to get busted and maybe telling his wife and begging forgiveness, he's going to harass an acquaintence to beg her not to tell his wife? Coward.
Winner!
So this guy is cheating on his wife, and doing so out in public where any number of people that know him or her could drive by and witness this?? Not only is he a scumbag, but he is a world class moron.
Why are you not even considering telling her? Please put yourself in her shoes. And do not take his calls. As someone else stated, he will lie, lie, lie! Either deny or try to make you feel sorry for him.
"Don't marry a man unless you would be PROUD to have a son exactly like him." ~ Unknown
Pipe down, you had your chance!
I loooove this one. Also I k ow I would want someone....anyone... To tell me if my spouse were slutting it up