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my dad - wow

MarylandWedMarylandWed
in May 2008 Weddings

backstory - my sister and her partner went through artificial insemination and are expecting a baby boy in june. the egg was her partner's (she is carrying) and the sperm was a donors.

i emailed my dad, who lives in costa rica and has come back once in 10 years, to see what he thinks about becoming a grandfather. he said "As far as being a grandfather, I am happy for (sister's name).  As I see it, there is no family connection, but since I like children and he will be a great joy to her, I think it is fine."

wow. i remember when it dawned on me that oh, the baby will have no chance of looking like me (yes, as an aunt i was thinking totally of myself - haha!). but i never thought he would be less than because he's not blood related. he is still a new member of the family.

my dad never ceases to amaze.

Me:39 Dx LPD, Fibroid, AMA and all that goes with that. H:37 Dx low motility and low morphology. TTC since 3/12. Clomid 8/12 and 9/12: BFN. 11/12 on a break for Myomectomy sched. 11/26. Resume TTC early 2013.
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  • MarylandWedMarylandWed
    and in related news, my sister and her partner became domestic partners today and my sister's wife took my sister's last name (my maiden name). i told my dad well if it's any solace the baby will carry on your name (and he's a male, so he really will). obviously if frank and i have blood children they will not have my dad's name.
    Me:39 Dx LPD, Fibroid, AMA and all that goes with that. H:37 Dx low motility and low morphology. TTC since 3/12. Clomid 8/12 and 9/12: BFN. 11/12 on a break for Myomectomy sched. 11/26. Resume TTC early 2013.
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  • karebear304karebear304
    Maybe he'll feel differently when (if?) he actually meets the baby. Cnograts to your sister and her partner on becoming domestic partners today! That's awesome!
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  • D&J_052408D&J_052408
    Congrats to them!  I guess I wouldn't have even thought about the baby not being blood related.  Maybe he'll come around once he's born.
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  • buckeyethorbuckeyethor

    Congrats to them and wow, a child with his last name isn't really related?!? geez dad!

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  • LSUmommy4LSUmommy4
    Congrats to them!  Such excited things happening in their lives right now...you and I have already discussed this but hopefully he will come around once the baby is born, but if he doesn't at least your sister has you and your mom who are very excited!
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  • shmoozershmoozer
    Your dad is a trip. He's smoking too much weed while living on an island.
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  • kupdikekupdike

    congrats to them!  Party!!!  That is so exciting for your family. 

     And  your dad, I wouldn't even give him a second thought.  If he's not excited to be a granpa then bah-humbugg to him. I'm not sure of his & your sister's relationship, but i wouldn't even mention his remarks to her or her spouse.  It doesn't sound like he has anything positive to add anyway.

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  • KlassyWithaKKlassyWithaK
    Congratulations to your sister! Don't let his negative attitude get your family down about something this exciting. Like people said, maybe he'll change his mind once the baby is here.
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  • BMWwifeBMWwife

    Congrats to your sister!! I would have to ask him if he'd feel the same way if you and your H were pursing an adoption???

    I agree with Shmoozer... 

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  • MarylandWedMarylandWed
    thanks for all the congrats. no, i have no plans to tell my sister. i wouldn't want to hurt her. in one way i can understand where he is coming from. he will have no relationship with the child because he lives so far away and never visits. if that's the kind of grandfather he would be, then i guess that's no grandfather at all.
    Me:39 Dx LPD, Fibroid, AMA and all that goes with that. H:37 Dx low motility and low morphology. TTC since 3/12. Clomid 8/12 and 9/12: BFN. 11/12 on a break for Myomectomy sched. 11/26. Resume TTC early 2013.
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  • shmoozershmoozer

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    thanks for all the congrats. no, i have no plans to tell my sister. i wouldn't want to hurt her. in one way i can understand where he is coming from. he will have no relationship with the child because he lives so far away and never visits. if that's the kind of grandfather he would be, then i guess that's no grandfather at all.

    agreed.

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