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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
My IJL Date
I updated my blog with details since I have insomnia (link in siggy). If you want the short version though I'll save you the time - itfuckingsucked
I do have some really fun and excited news though, a dating website based in the UK is expanding into the US and they are looking for dating bloggers for their website. They found my blog and asked if I was interested! I recongize some of their current bloggers as I follow their blogs . Sounds fun and I'm really flattered that they like my blog. They get the bloggers together for events too and I think that would be really fun so we'll see!
Re: My IJL Date
OMG! I read your blog. What an awful date! You were a trooper to stay for dinner. Wow! I can't believe he asked for separate checks and then had the nerve to ask for your number.
Are you going to continue with IJL?
Congrats on the dating blogging deal!
I don't know, I am going to have to have a long talk with them! First I am not doing it again if it's at night. They are going to need to fix me up for lunch during the week. WTF, it's called It's Just lunch! I much prefer lunch dates for first dates - they are faster, plus I don't feel like I am wasting my time... no time away from my son and I don't have to get a sitter. Second, they are going to have to step it up times 1,000. Ugh
Ugh, how awful!
I can not believe they set you up with that guy! Who does the matching? Do you meet anyone in person or is it all online?
The only thing that maybe makes a little sense is if he used fake pictures or something. I don't know how much it cost but this sounds like a waste of money! I'm sorry you had such a crappy time. Sounds like you have a fun weekend coming up though!
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Ugh! How in the world did they set you up with him??? Have you contacted them to let them know how unacceptable everything was? Ditto Lauren in that maybe he gave them fake pics and info?
Do you think you'll give it another shot with them? If not, is there a cancellation period?
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Oh geez! I'm so sorry. You should definitely complain to IJL about how horrible of a match it was. I was contemplating maybe trying out IJL, but after this I think I'll pass. No thank you!
Good luck this weekend! Keep us posted!
I read your blog also. How horrible! It sounds like the whole idea behind the site is good, but I'm curious how they chose the date. That sounds like a horrible match! There is bound to be bad experiences, but that sounds like a bit much especially if it's an expensive service.
But, the blog news sounds really exciting! Good luck with that and your upcoming dates this weekend!
I haven't contacted them yet. They ask you to email feedback on your date, but I think I might call them too. I'm going to wait until after this weekend to see how my dates go. They are supposed to meet with everyone before matching you up. I met with them. I have no idea why they set me up with that loser... the only thing I can come up with is that they really don't have any decent guys in this area.
I met him on POF, we've been talking for just about a week. I haven't really mentioned him yet... he seems pretty awesome but I am ridiculously skeptical. I am excited to meet him but I set up a fall back date with another guy on Sunday so if it's awful I have something to look forward to after. OMG I have 3 dates this weekend! My son is going to see his dad which he only does like 3 times a year so I'm taking advantage of the time I have!
Hmmmm....I guess I'm a major biatch. I would have just given him a random wrong number (or your old number like you were contemplating). Although I don't see how that's really much worse. You're still giving him a number that won't work and he won't be able to contact you.
WOW....I'd totally call them and give them hell for their choice. Did you already sign a contract or was it a one-time thing? Sadly, there aren't very many good reviews about IJL from what I've heard.
BUT good luck with all 3 dates this weekend! Sounds like you have no where to go but up!
Just read your blog-that sounds horrible!! I give you huge kuddos though for not taking anything too seriously and just moving on. Onward and upward!
PS-I totally, completely get the time thing. Our time is SO very precious as single moms. Honestly I think that you are too nice. I have a client who was telling me a story about her daughter. She went on a date with someone and it was just NOT working out and she realized it mid-way through. She politely said "You know, this just isn't going anywhere, it was nice to have met you" and left. I admire that kind of courage. What's the point of carrying on something just to be nice, when you'll likely never see them again? Especially in a situation like yours where it was THAT bad.
I tried to find something salvagable to make it not a complete waste of time and thought that scallops sounded really good. And they were really amazing although way too small. I ended up having to eat again when I got home!
He was a total nerd (and not in a good way), couldn't hold a conversation and wanted to split the check. It suckedass
If you are able to get out of your commitment with IJL, I would. I could tell you more about my experiences, but I don't want to bore you. Just know that this recent experience will likely replay itself in future IJL dates. Run, run fast!