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How do you get through the "I feel weak" days?
I seriously wish STBX would just leave me the f alone.
He called last night to talk to the kids, then, of course, wanted to talk to me. I, stupidly, listened to him for a few minutes and then told him I had to go to put the little guy to bed. He continued calling and calling and calling, then when I didn't answer, started texting.
He keeps saying he is coming home on Saturday (um, no, I have FILED for divorce, I don't want to live with you) and it is freaking me out.
I am having the locks changed this afternoon and have asked my attorney how I go about getting a document (restraining order, temp protection order) to keep him out of the house until I am granted exclusive use of the house at our court date.
But, because I am exhausted, in the back of my mind I keep thinking, maybe I should give him another chance, maybe he has changed, it would be so much easier to just let him back in the house instead of fighting this...
How do you survive days when you feel like this? I wish I could just pack up my kids and run away.
Re: How do you get through the "I feel weak" days?
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Agreed. A lot of women keep journals and reread the reasons that things didn't work during these tough days. Therapy helps too. ((hugs))
I know it is really really hard but try to ignore and not engage in the texting calling etc. I ended up changing my number but there were no kids involved.
Also, like PP said, remember WHY you are divorcing him. Every time I thought of the way EXH treated me, used drugs, and cheated, etc. I felt myself get a little bit stronger that there was no way I would take him back.
I also repeated this motto constantly to myself: "If he doesnt appreciate my presence, he deserves my absence"
Thanks everyone! I am feeling better as the day goes on, it just gets really overwhelming at times.
The journaling is a great idea, I think I will start doing this.