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unannounced MIL visits, ugh!!
For the record I do welcome my MIL into my home, but lately she has been coming over unannounced all hours of the day. This bothers me for personal reasons because I am not always 100% dressed. Or as my Husband puts it "dressed for company". I have no intention of showing off my body to my MIL. How do I ask her for a heads up before her visits with out hurting her feelings or sounding rude. After all this is MY home.
Re: unannounced MIL visits, ugh!!
Miss Manners used to suggest that people keep their car keys by the front door. That way, when unexpected (and unwanted) company decided to "drop by" they could hold their keys and say "so sorry, I was just about to go out. Next time call so that we can have a real visit." - then jump in the car and drive away (anywhere!).
I would just not answer, or tell her "sorry, I am busy" or "sorry, I am getting ready to go out - you'll have to come back another time." If MIL has to drive back with no visit, that will probably be enough for her to learn how to call. You teach people how to treat you.
Your DH needs to say something to her, and really... if that doesn't work, then you need to start saying "Oh, this isn't a good time. Give me a call next time so that you don't waste a trip" - and don't let her in!
She does this partially because she doesn't KNOW that it's a problem. Granted- most people know not to stop by unannounced on a regular basis, but somewhere in all of this, she started, you all didnt' say anything, so she did it some more and then some more, and well.... here you are.
This can be done politely and w/ a smile - but you have to remember that SHE'S actually the rude one. So whhile you're concerned about her feelings, she's clearly not concerned about yours.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
"I'm sorry, this is just not a good time!" click and lock.
You really don't have to let her in just because she's on the doorstep. Think of her as a Jehovah's Witness. You can let her in if you want to talk to her, but you don't have to.
This. For what it's worth, this would bug the SH!TT out of me. I'm usually not dressed for company if I'm at my own home, and I've never enjoyed anyone just "dropping by".