Trouble in Paradise
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How was your weekend?
Did you do anything fun? Ready for the new week?
I'm dragging due to the daylight savings change, it was so hard to get out of bed this morning.
Re: How was your weekend?
Busy weekend, but very good one!
I finally managed to finish the barn in time to get to yoga on Sunday morning. So now everything hurts in the "I'm a stiff old lady" kind of way.
Also, lots of horse time, went for a good run in the warm weather, and played board games with friends on Saturday.
The time change isn't affecting me as much as it normally does, which I'm very happy about.
It was great. Pretty much caught up on Switched at Birth and Smash. Then I read. H has been sick (upper respiratory infection... you'd think he was dying) so he hung out with me too.
I usually am okay with DST, but I'm actually sitting here with my hair wet, because I needed those extra 20 minutes. And I've told people my hair dryer wasn't working this morning. My hair will be dry around 7pm. LOL!
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
My weekend sucked. The houses on Saturday were all awful. Saturday night, I went to visit my grandfather in the hospital. I waited for my mom and we went in together. Yeah he was dead. Cue me having a slight freak out.
So not the best weekend ever at all.
Oh ESD - I'm so sorry. Big ehugs.
Good morning everyone! The time change has me feeling totally hung over.
Saturday was really great. Quiet morning, shower sexytimes while the little dude was napping, beautiful weather. We just had a nice family day and played outside by the ocean.
Then we had a really cranky day yesterday - ummmm apparently 3 is hard, y'all. The little dude is really flexing his strong-willed "you can't make me and I think it's hilarious" muscles. I'm still trying to figure out my role in all of this so it's kind of weird/exhausting/aggravating when he does this.
This is going to be a two cup of coffee day, minimum.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Thanks.
And thanks everyone.
mine was pretty uneventful.
friday i stayed in, even though i was supposed to go to my parent's house. oops. but i was so tired! i was in bed by 930. i felt like an old lady.
saturday i went to the beach with my friend. it was so relaxing. i love how when you're at the beach, time seems to slow down. then we went to applebee's and pigged out on burgers and fries.
sunday i stayed in bed way too long and just hung out at home.
i'm so sorry for your loss ESD.
I'm so sorry ESD.
I went to a surprise party for my aunt on Saturday. Fell asleep too early both Friday and Saturday night.
Sunday I did some online shopping for my DS's birthday and got some good deals on a desk, printer and chair.
I've been doing a lot of yardwork lately and dealing with sinus stuff because of it. Saturday I thought I had a gnarly booger in my nose... the kind thats really hard and clinging for dear life to a nose hair, so I got a tissue and went after that bastard.
Yeah... um it wasn't a booger. I'm pretty sure I picked a cyst out of my nose. It was about the size of a head of a pin and white and kind of cartilege-y. I really need to make that appointment to see a doctor I've been putting off...
My weekend was long. Joaquin is getting teeth and H was helping his dad move all weekend so he was pretty much useless even when he got home.
{{{HUGS ESD}}}
I didn't even know DST started this weekend. I was seriously confused on Sunday about how long I had slept. I hate these self-changing clocks.
Saturday was a very busy day - we went to a home and garden show to talk to some contractors about our house plans. We were feeling quite ambitious, so after we left we went to a few places to price out some of the projects. We'll probably tile the Florida room in a month or two. Next weekend we'll change out some light fixtures. There's an especially gross one in the kitchen that I cannot wait to chuck in the garbage.
Sunday we spent the day cleaning, and I set up my hammock. It was so nice to read and catch a nap in the sunshine.
So sorry for your loss, ESD.
We had an eventful weekend. Friday was bunco. Saturday we took the dogs on a 4 mile hike...straight down a mountain to the river where they got to play...and then straight back up the mountain. Saturday night was dinner with my friend and DH's friend - who are not dating, but one of them wants to be and the other doesn't...the food was pretty terrible. Sunday I volunteered at the cat sanctuary and stayed up too late watching Celebrity Apprentice, which really shouldn't be longer than one hour.
Rather boring.
Friday night- dinner with fi and friends and about half a bottle of wine when i got home
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Saturday-Dinner with one of my good friends for his birthday.
Sunday-took my nieces to the American Girl doll store and chased them around, lunch with my parents and then filled my nieces with ice cream then kindly handed them back to my sister. I am exhausted from this adventure. That damn store is ridiculously expensive and it was hotter than hell in there, Also the 59 screaming girls was enough for me to keep my legs closed and turn my ute off for awhile.
Oh, man. ESD, how terrible. I'm so sorry.
I haven't been sleeping well lately, what with my alarm clock going off early on me last week and waking up in the middle of the night for no reason this weekend. And not being able to sleep past 8. Ugh. I take sleeping pills for a reason, and even they aren't helping me right now.
Weekend was good - hung out with the boy, saw John Carter, played Mass Effect 3, walked near the beach.
i feel like i got nothing accomplished, i can't even remember what i did friday (which i had off), Sat, went to start up the bike and vette, of course again the vette won't start, we didn't have time to jump it and take it out since we were going to a wedding expo...big mistake. but a huge eye opener. my first wedding i didn't have to do anything but pick the resort and fill out a few pages about what i wanted it. FI didn't have to do anything but show up for tastings the first time around...this time we are paying for it ourselves, and have found out that having it at the house with tent, chair, table rentals and catering...is way expensive, so we had a not so fun rest of the day talking budget, and seeing how expensive everything is and freaking out that we have nothing done, and a huge to do list....so we found a winery i like, they pretty much provide everything but bouquets and photography...i emailed all the other local wineries for pricing, but nothing as good, emailed photographers to get their pricing info for what we want. set up an appointment at a bridal shop tonight, and i think we decided on a honeymoon spot but we have to book tonight to get the 65% savings (sandals)
it is flooring to see what everything is costing when you add it all together, including honeymoon 20K....and that's if we can get the guest list down to like 70...he needs to cross out some family, that's where our majority is coming from.
sunday we were both hung over (me because i drank on an empty stomach) him because the whiskey was going down too smooth....we did end up visiting 2 wineries to see what they look like in person, but they will look way different in August.
it was not a fun weekend at all.
I'm so sorry ESD. ***HUGS***
My weekend was kinda rough, kinda good. DH and I talked Friday and he really opened up a lot, which caused me to really see some things about myself that I didn't like (ways I've let him down, not seen that I wasn't really supporting him, things like that). He talked to me about a lot of things this weekend, including that he's looking at applying to jobs in other states. I know it would be hard to move, but that I could probably get licensed in another state once I'm licensed in CA (assuming we stay together and he gets a job in another state). We definitely explored closeness and intimacy a bit more this weekend than we have since everything went down and we went on a date last night to see John Carter. It seems like he's truly starting to consider the good and not just think about the bad. I'm in a cautiously hopeful place.
The downside to the weekend: I've had lots of muscle tension, despite my new as-needed prescription for ativan.
I'm so sorry, ESD.
My weekend was awesome. I went to Stars on Ice, and got to meet Ilia Kulik and Ekaterina Gordeeva. Two days later, I'm still all atwitter.
This makes me a little uneasy. Running to another state won't fix his issues with you and him, even if they may open up other job opportunities. I know you know this, but he may not see what he's doing.
Did he state "I am going to apply for jobs in xxx states" or did he bring it up in a more communicative manner? As in "how would you feel about moving? Let's discuss this together"
This gives me some disquiet. He has let you down a helluva lot. Was that discussed, or was it all what he needs, and how he feels, and how you need to improve?
It sucked, for the most part.
DD got sick on Thursday and that continued through the weekend. She was cranky, had a fever, and was up several times a night.
Saturday, my mom watched her for a couple hours so SO and I could go to Old Navy and grab dinner. We went to Hooters and watched some of the MU game.
Sunday, I came down with what DD had, so I laid on the couch all day, drinking Alka Seltzer Plus, taking Zicam, and blowing my nose every 5 minutes.
Evie and I are feeling much better today though!
Kuus, I get your disquiet. I've pointed out many times along the way his failings, and he's well aware of most of them, especially the biggest one, which is how he hasn't been there for me emotionally. Our conversation wasn't about what he needs from me or how I need to change. It was about how we both feel. I realized some things afterwards, upon doing my own reflection and introspection, that I didn't like about myself and how I'd handled things. It wasn't anything he told me. I haven't pointed out anything new to him because I think he's discovering a lot in therapy right now and he needs to focus on that first. If we do stay together, I'll be bringing things up in couple's therapy.
Lint Licker (weird calling you that!), he brought up the out-of-state jobs thing by saying that he has been looking at jobs and that some of them are out of state. He didn't say he wanted to run it by me, but he said it in a way that seemed to invite discussion. We talked about it, I shared what I would and wouldn't be willing to do (IF we stay together, of course), we talked about what those opportunities would be/look like. It didn't seem like he was looking to it as a fix, because he's always said he doesn't want to leave SD. He sees it as a chance for a job that would much better suit his personality and utilize the skills he's built up in his current position over the last 5 years.