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How do I assure him that it?s not his fault??
I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half now. Prior to us getting together, I was living in the town I grew up in and would hang out with a pretty social group of girls. We were all between the ages of 21 and 25 and could definitely be labeled as ?party girls?. I had a lot of fun drinking and raising hell with them, but then in July of last year, I was relocated from Montana to Florida for my job.
While in Florida, I did go out a few times, but my new friends were all a bit older and settled than my hometown friends were. We definitely didn?t party like I did with the girls back home. I basically just learned to adjust to the new group of people that I had met, and I was happy. Then, in December of last year, my job relocated me again?this time to the same town that my boyfriend lives in [he?s in the military ? we?re both from Montana, but he?s stationed in South Carolina] and we decided to move in together.
Since we have started living together, we have only went out [to a bar] maybe two or three times and usually spend our weekends trying new restaurants, furniture shopping for our new apartment, taking our puppy to the park, etc. I really don?t mind my new lifestyle and as it turns out, I?m not as big of a fan of hangovers as I used to be. *lol* For me, it just feels like I?m growing up. Most people go through a party phase in their life, and I feel like mine is over. I?m not upset about it, and when I have a desire to go out, my boyfriend is more than willing to take me.
Last night he was acting a little funny and was saying things like, ?I feel like I?ve made you change and I?m holding you back from doing the things that you like to do.? ?I know that I?m not as social as you are and I feel like you?re going to resent me for that.? Etc, etc, etc. I tried to reassure him that I made the change for me, not for him and that I?m perfectly happy with the way that my life is now. I?m just not sure that he believed me?he didn?t really act like it. I want him to know that I don?t resent him and I?m definitely happy with my new lifestyle. Is there anything I can do to make him believe that it wasn?t just because of him?
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