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Is this common?
Who did you invite to your bridal shower/bachelorette party?
A good friend of mine is getting married in September and his fianc?e just invited me to her bridal shower/bach party. I've met her twice - at my wedding and one other time. She's super nice and I like her a lot, but I never expected to be invited to the bride-only events surrounding the wedding.
I know in some circles people invite every female on the guest list to the shower, but I thought that was becoming less and less common.
Re: Is this common?
Seems kind of strange and maybe a little gift grabby? But maybe she just wants to get to know you better since you're close friends with her FI. He also might have sugguested inviting you. You never know!
I only invited close female relatives/friends to my shower (about 50) and close female friends and very few family members to my bachelorette party (about 12).
my shower was like... my friends and family members, I'm not overall very AWy so I barely agreed to one in the first place.
My bach party- I had two, one in San Antonio, and those were all my grad school friends, and back home were home-friends, some cousins, and actually some of my sister's friends (who didnt come to my wedding). I had been to some of there's but not at their wedding, and my sister wanted to invite them, since I was cool with them I agreed and all was fun. They were super psyched to be invited by all reports. But it wasn't really a "gift" party or situation, other than them buying me drinks I guess.
I'm fun to party with.
ETA I have been invited in similar situations as you, and thought it was weird bc I didnt know the bride very well.
I changed my name
I'm hosting a bridal shower for FSIL and she really only invited people closest to her- family, friends and a few choice co-workers. 20 people, half of which are family.
67/200
Bridal showers=women from both families, close friends, etc. I can *maybe* see the +1 invited here, but that's a major stretch.
Bach party=Besties. I think I had 20-25 people at my bach party, but they were all my closest friends from childhood and my sorority. I can't imagine having someone I hardly know there.
If you're really close with her FI I can maybe see why she invited you, but it's still weird. For my bridal shower we basically only invited females who would be invited to the wedding on their own (not because of their SO). The only plus one that was invited was the Best Man's girlfriend because we hung out with them all the time so I was pretty close with her.
B-parties though are definitely only super close friends or family. In my hometown they do stag parties for the guys though, which many people think are tacky, where you sell tickets and people will go to them even if they don't know the groom.
It's not that weird to me that she invited me to the bach party, given that she invited me to the shower. The shower is ~2.5 hours away from my mom's house (where I happen to already be visiting for another wedding the weekend before) so since I'd already be making the trip and possibly staying overnight anyway, I guess it'd be weird if everyone else from the shower went out and I stayed in the hotel.
I just think it's weird (but nice, I guess) that I was included in the bride-only pre-wedding events to start with.
My initial reaction is, yes it's uncommon. However, my answer also depends on who is hosting it.
Some people have multiple showers (family, friends, coworkers) and because of that they can include people in an outer tier.
For me, I was given a shower thrown by my Aunt (Mom's Side). She gave me a # that could fit in her home comfortably and went from there. For friends only my BMs could make it, the rest was my Mother's side and only MIL.