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SIL's address
Does anyone know why my SIL and her husband would both be listed under my address? They live in WI and my husband and I live in WA. Whenever I forget a relative's address I look it up on people search (The Official White Pages). I've always found it to be pretty accurate and never noticed any relative listed under our address. In fact, I've looked for her address in the past and it has always showed her correct address...until now. I even looked up her closest relatives and found her listed under her mom's address (who lives in a different state) but she never lived at that residence either. I find this very strange and since she is not someone I would call trustworthy, I'm kind of suspicious as to why she is suddenly showing up under different address??? We've lived in this state for 3 years and didn't resided with us. She has no connection to this state other than her brother living here. Out of curiosity I looked up different family members and they were all listed under the correct addresses.
Currently she is not in a good financial position and the last I heard her home may be going into foreclosure though she is still living there. Would this have anything to do with the address change? Maybe The Official White Pages has no address for her and just listed her under someone else's residence? Also, she has recently had a psychotic breakdown and has been acting very bizarre to the point she ended up hospitalized. Nothing she says has been making sense and when you speak to her you don't know if she's lying or telling the truth. When I spoke to her last week she had mentioned that she received a free cell phone through the mail and that when she activated it she noticed it was a WA number (however she said it listed a different city than where we live). Is that just a coincidence or what? Also, how can she afford this cell phone if she has no job? Finally, do any cell phone companies (particularly AT&T) send free cell phones through the mail??? When I think about it there really should be no reason for her to be listed under our address unless she has actually lived with us. Does anyone have any ideas as to why it suddenly appears as if they are living with us? I know a lot of times if you do a search on someone it'll list the people who a person may be related to. But in my case they are actually listed as residents of this address. Should I just shrug it off and just assume it's some kind of mistake? After all, I'm not receiving any of their mail so it can't be that big of a deal right?
Re: SIL's address
"Don't marry a man unless you would be PROUD to have a son exactly like him." ~ Unknown
I agree that a credit check can't hurt, just to be safe. But honestly, I think some of those sites make assumptions based on the fact that people are related. A couple of them list my parents' address as a past address for me. I've never lived in their current house, never gotten mail there, never applied for loans (nor have they applied for them in relation to me...we are not on one another's credit reports).
Heck, my sister gets the occasional call for stuff relating to her FIL and again, they've never lived together, shared a phone number, had joint credit, anything else. But somewhere the last names got matched up and my sister had her phone # attached to her FILs file with some company or other.
Run a credit check to make yourself feel better.
But don't read too much into it. According to the Official White Pages, my husband lives at his sister's address. Just because an online directory lists her address as yours doesn't necessarily mean something nefarious is going on.
My mom is always getting angry at me b/c she is on the "Justice" (girls clothing store) mailing list. Well, it is my name and her address. I SWEAR I have never used her address as my own, but of course I used to live there (but never as a married woman, and it has my married name on the catalogs).
Now if your SIL has credit problems, I would run a credit check, but there are often problems with mailing lists, websites, etc.