September 2009 Weddings
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s/o engagements: the ring
yeah, we've opened a can of worms with this one...
Regarding your engagement ring, did you have a hand (haha) in picking it out, or did your husband do it all on his own?
Was it what you wanted? Did you/have you exchanged it or made any upgrades since?
Would you have done something differently, be it choose a different style or have gone with him to give him ideas?
Re: s/o engagements: the ring
I knew that I wanted before we really even talked about getting married... it was just something a girl has in her mind, ya know? And once we did start talking about it, I made sure I sent him the link to get the same idea in his head for when the time came.
He did good. The band was the exact one I wanted, and the diamond was perfect, both in cut and carat!
I wish we had measured my finger a little better, if at all, but then he would have given away that he was looking. He used a size I gave him a while before I got the ring, but then I was on WW and lost some weight and the ring was too big. Because of the channel set diamonds, sizing it was a ***, so now, though it fits, it's a little mishapened. Also, somtimes I wish I looked more than just found this one ring and fixated on it. I still love my ring, but I wonder if I was blind to something I would have liked more...
updated 10.03.12
I didnt go. I didnt look. I didnt know what he was buying. All I did was tell him I didn't want yellow gold, I didnt want a solitaire, I didnt want the same ring his ex wife had (which coincidentally was a yellow gold solitaire but I didnt know that at the time), and that I liked antique looking rings.
Its definitely something that I would have picked for myself. He did good. The only change I have made was to get my e-ring and wedding band soldered together.
Nope.
I had no hand in it. He asked his parents for the ring they'd saved for him at Christmas that year, and he had it re-set in white gold.
It isn't what I would have picked out for myself. It is a little smaller, and a different cut, with a different setting.
The only change I have made is having a custom fit wedding band made with sapphire trilliants and then having the rings soldered so they're one piece.
He would have bought a bigger, round diamond in a more delicately pronged setting if he had asked. Or if I'd gone with him I probably would have ended up with something that wasn't a strict solitaire.
ETA: This makes it sound like I don't like my ring, and really I love it. It is a really good ring, and I'll be sad when we upgrade it, but we'll keep it and I may wear it as a right hand ring. We'll definitely let one of our kids have it if they want to use it to propose/ if someone wants to propose to them.
Stand up for something you believe in.
We did go look together and I picked out my ring, but I had looked at a smaller middle diamond, but he wanted to get the bigger one, and he did.
He actually went back to the store later that week and bought it, so he had the ring for about 5 months before proposing.
I love my ring but the reason I wanted a smaller diamond was because I was afraid of losing it. I did lose it, but luckily found it on the ground after knocking it against the door frame.
I guess I kind of did, but I thought he would improvise on the theme a little, which he did not. I said that I wanted a platinum band (my skin is weird, it eats through metals like white gold and I would be redipping it every 3 months) and a round stone. And that's what I got. I haven't done anything to it/exchanged it or upgraded it at all.
It is technically what I wanted, I think I would've liked it if he had gone with something with a little personality..engraving on the band, side stones of some kind..It's beautiful though, and together with my wedding band it looks really pretty.
Regarding your engagement ring, did you have a hand (haha) in picking it out, or did your husband do it all on his own? I ended up picking it out, not on purpose, I was just at the mall looking and saw it and fell in love
Was it what you wanted? Did you/have you exchanged it or made any upgrades since? Originally I was looking at white gold and I ended up with rose gold. No exchanges or upgrades
Would you have done something differently, be it choose a different style or have gone with him to give him ideas? I have a 3 stone ring with smaller ones on the side, I think I would of liked one bigger stone instead
DH refused to let me go look at rings with him. He said the ring was the one thing the guy had complete control over. I had given him hints that I didn't want yellow gold or a solitaire, but that was it.
My ring is probably not what I would have picked out, but I actually love it now more than what I might have picked for myself. I gravitated toward trendier rings that I think would have lost their appeal over time. I've not made any changes or upgrades.
Even though I would have loved to have the opportunity to ring shop with him, I think he did a great job, and it's kind of fun when people compliment me on my rings to tell them my husband picked them out himself. They always sound impressed with his taste in jewelry.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
I had no input on my ring, and I wanted it that way:) It meant so much more to me to have him do it on his own and me be surprised. We had never even been to a jewelry store together!
That being said, I didn't have a specific style in mind. I just wanted something simple, classic and not in yellow gold...he knew that.
Honestly, my ring is perfect for me. I adore it and wouldn't want anything different. No exchanges or upgrades!
I wouldn't have wanted to go with him to give him ideas. I'd do it all over again the exact same way:)
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I didn't have any role in the ring. I don't think we ever even talked about it. BUT, he did email one of my BFF's for direction, and she pretty much nailed it (although I don't think her and I ever talked about it, she just knew my styled). He actually went shopping with two of his aunts, to get his input.
He nailed it. I LOVE my ring, and I would probably have picked out the same thing. I still look down and admire it sometimes, and like that it is somewhat unique (square/emerald step cut). I would not change anything, and I love that he did it pretty independently.
He started hinting around about rings, and I squashed it. I didn't want to know anything!
It was exactly what I wanted, simple and classic. I haven't made any changes, just added the eternity wedding band.
If I were going shopping for myself, I would have picked out something different, but I didn't want any input. I wanted it to be 100% from him. I'm really happy with what he picked out. I think I'll look at it in 50 years and still think it's beautiful.
This exactly. Very randomly, early in our relationship, I mentioned that I wanted a solitaire princess cut. He went from there though it wasn't hard given those clues haha
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I sent him links of the ring I wanted. I specified the exact size and everything because I didn't want him going over the top and spending money on it. He argued with me that the 3-stone ring wasn't an "engagment" ring that solitaires were engagment rings. But - in the end, he listened to me and purchased the one I wanted.
I haven't made any upgrades since. Nor have I had it resized, which means I haven't worn my rings in well over a year since they don't fit anymore.
Nope. It's perfect.
Had shown him examples of rings I liked and we actually went and looked at rings together a few times and I tried some on but he said when I put this one on he knew it was the one an thats the one he got.
It is very close to what I wanted. He went with a bigger stone than I would have picked and I love the way the ring looks from the top bit not as much from the side. Though the selling point on the side view was a the infinity symbol that is etched on. I have not and would not exchange or upgrade it.
I couldn't have done anything differently. I just wish it didnt stick up so much off my finger, it does have the vintage look I wanted but not the vintage deep setting, but it wouldnt sparkle as much if it were set deeper an he did go all out in the diamond.
He knew I had wanted a Tiffany solitaire since I was little.
So that's what he saved for. And bought for me.
And that's why I suck.