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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Nesting with a Vet
Hello,
I've been lurking on this board for a while and I've seen the majority of posts from/about AD spouses/nesties (lol no duh, it's the military board).
I'm just curious to see if there are any Nesties out there who are married to a Vet.
My hubby is an OIF Veteran (Combat Medic) who is currently going to school and I am a government civilian.
I was just curious to see what others have experienced regarding things like PTSD issues and how they may influence your relationship and getting things accomplished together.
Thanks!
Re: Nesting with a Vet
When H and I started dating, he was getting off AD after being recalled from the IRR. He was a veteran for the first year we were together before he reenlisted.
He did not/does not have PTSD. Has your husband been diagnosed with it by a professional? If so, I'm so sorry you guys are dealing with that.
Other than that, we have a few spouses of veterans (shout out to E&A), and some people who have nothing to do with the military besides living in a mil town or having someone else they know (besides a spouse) in. Welcome!
Thanks for the shout out and the welcome
Yes he's been diagnosed - about 3 years ago officially. It is what it is, I just really wish the VA had a better standard of care for those who defend our country (and also give VA employees their GD jobs... but I'll save the tirade). However, he has an amazing counselor (and I am so proud of him for sticking with it) and I have mine as well to help us.
We also live in a military town, and oddly enough we traded places (he was enlisted when I was in school when we first met; now I'm on post and he's in school lol).
So if any one wants to chat or see how other spouses are working with PTSD, or have PTSD questions, I'll be more than happy to help weigh in. By no means do I consider myself an expert, but we've gone through a lot working through this condition and it's nice to know there are others out there who are as well.
Best wishes
Hi and welcome. MH is AD Army. I am prior serivice USAR. I was diagnosed with PTSD years ago, but it's not from my service. It stems from things that happened when I was a teenager. I no longer see a counselor but from them, I have learned to deal with it when an issue comes up. There are a few other ladies here who have had expirience with it either personally, through a spouse or other loved ones.
I am so glad your H sought help and is sticking with it. It can be tough, but it gets better.
My H got out in Nov, but was on terminal leave before that since Aug. He now works overseas as a contractor and just be home in the fall (crosses fingers he gets the postion state side).
About a month before getting out H was diagnosed with TBI and possible PTSD. Once he is back on American soil he will get a full work up with the VA. The big things that happen is he rarely sleeps, and has vision issues, and a lot of pain.
We work though it right now and talk a lot but he will have a counsler when he gets home.
Hi there!
I usually lurk too, but I wanted to respond to this.
My FI (with whom I have been living for 2 years) has a diagnosed case of PTSD from OIF. He gets the catatonic flashbacks, anxious and twitchy in crowds or from loud noises, nightmares.
For me, reseach was key. Knowing what to look for in his actions or surroundings helped me to help him avoid situations that would really stress him out. Saying things like "maybe we should skip the 4th of July fireworks this year" or "How would you feel about a Saturday matinee, instead of the 8pm showing of the movie" made a huge difference.
Anyway, I, too, am glad to know there are other people with struggles similar to mine.