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My hearts playing tricks on me

So this may end up being a little long, I apologize in advance.

One day last month I was volunteering in the nursery at Church. My LO was happily playing and another Mom (turned out foster mom) brought in a little boy almost exactly LO's age. She said she'd never dropped him off, and in fact had only had him a few days, so to call her if he didn't do well. Well he cried for a few and only wanted to be held. Then we sat down where he curled up into my chest and passed out gripping my shirt, for the next hour and a half that's where he was. When she came back and saw him, she had the biggest sigh of relief because she told me he hadn't slept since coming with her and it was nice to see him at peace. She told me a few words of how she came to be with him, nothing I'll pass along here but just know it's things that little babies should not experience. I kept in touch, brought her and him dinner once, where LO and him played a bit and got along great. 

Fast forward to yesterday.  We've since changed churches, and she comes walking up to me in this new church and sits down next to me. I immediately asked how the little boy was and she sadly said he went back to his Mom, who just gave birth to another baby last week or so. DHS has told her they'd most likely be taking both children out and keeping them together, and she is only able to take one more at the time so she won't be getting him back. Then she smiled and said, "He'd look awful cute in your family" Cue my bleeding heart to want all in. And my brain saying there's just no way. 

I know I obviously do not know whether or not DHS will actually be taking both children back out, but knowing what happened before with just one child I don't foresee the mom being able to take care of two now all of a sudden.

I've always wanted to foster, and DH and I have talked about adopting down the road. And then this comes up and makes feelings I've had for this little boy come back to the surface. I KNOW we wouldn't get approved to be a foster right now. DH is leaving in a few months for basic, then I'll be moving in with my parents because we're renting our house out, and then we'll all be moving to who knows where! And even if we wanted to just adopt, they're not at that point yet and it will take a LONG time before they'd be considered adoptable. 

I don't know the point of this post. My heart is torn.. but realistically I know nothing can come of it. :-( Sigh.

If you got down to this part... thanks for reading it all!  

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Re: My hearts playing tricks on me

  • How heartbreaking =( I do wonder why they want to keep the two together though. I completely understand in cases where they have grown up together and are a familiar source of comfort, but an unborn baby seems odd to me. I dont have advice or anything but that is a story that tugs at your heart for sure.
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