I live in Florida a few minutes from my parents. My brother and his family live in Colorado. How did I find out they are visiting this week? Wait for it... My brother sent a "reply all email." It was a short list of people. Part of the reply said something about looking forward to seeing people this coming week. I called to clarify.
It isn't a big deal. I found out now and can plan. It is just that we have had this discussion before about no one telling me anything. I have been emailing my brother who may have thought my parents told me. I do plan to call him. So far I have only gotten in touch with my dad. Okay, so my brother and I still deal with miscommunication./lack of communication. It will work out. Vent over.
Re: I know I am overreacting
We never, ever, ever know when BIL is coming to town. We'll get a call from FIL usually the day of/ the day before (BIL will drive down from NYC) telling us and then asking "So- can you get together?".
Nope, we can't. Sorry. If BIL wants to see us, he'll call us directly and give us more notice. As he does neither, we assume he doesn't care all that much about seeing us. SO.... we're not going to bend over backwards to change our schedule around.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Exactly! There was no malicious intent. PITA nonetheless.
Well, I don't think being disappointed that your family member hasn't bothered to contact you when he is coming into town is an overreaction. Why do you?
As for what ECB said, I think your brother probably does this because he knows you will find time to hang out with him. So your actions are contributing to his actions. I'd just say leave it alone and don't get in touch with your parents - you and he are making them the middle man. Leave it up to your brother to contact you. If he does and you want to see him, than see him. If he contacts you and you are busy than say you are busy and he should have contacted you earlier to make plans.
If he doesn't call you at all, well you can address that with him whenever you do speak with him next.
This!