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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
I'm so depressed....
And really I have no reason to be. I mean, I'm going through a divorce, but STBX and I are pretty amicable, there's nothing majorly dramatic going on with that. My Mom is giving me a lot of problems, but I have some family support so that's okay. I have a lot of friends supporting me, and I've been seeing a really great guy who treats me like a queen. I don't understand why I'm so irritable and depressed all of the time.
Re: I'm so depressed....
Are you in therapy? Maybe you're not ready to date. It sounds like you're going through a lot right now. A divorce (even an amicable one) and family issues can take it's toll on people who aren't trying to balance another relationship, let alone you who is now in a new one.
I'd talk to a psychiatrist. Maybe you need some medication to help if it's affecting your life like this.
Hugs! I hate that you feel this way
It is hard to say without knowing other symptoms. Are you feeling this way when you are alone or while you are with others?
I feel good when I am around other people but when I am alone, it is weird. I have no distractions and I hear myself better which makes me realize I am still hurting and that is not fun at all. I get depressed.
I am still being analyzed at therapy to see if I have a depression that requires medication on top of going through the ups and downs of divorce healing. Sometimes this takes time.
What?
Considering what you've posted about on the regular around these parts, you have lots of reasons to be depressed. I also think you are in denial about receiving support from your family after your posts?
Are you going to therapy?
Well going through a divorce is considered to be one of the most stressful things a person can go though so it's not suprising that you feel depressed and irritable.
I felt sad and depressed for about a year after my divorce... not everyday but often enough. It's been 2 years now and I am not ready to date seriously but I am dating causally and hopeful for the future. I am not sad or depressed anymore but healing takes time... usually longer than you think it would. I think allowing myself the time to be alone made a lot of difference in who I am now vs. who I was 2 years ago.
You have posted that you're estranged from your entire family and you weren't dating anyone.
What's the deal?
I have a feeling that you're a dedicated rug-sweeper. In other words, you spend a lot of time convincing yourself that everything is fine even when it's not. I think if you actually acknowledged that things are stressful for you right now, and you worked on healing instead of covering up the bad feelings with a pithy "oh, that's OK" or with a rebound relationship, you wouldn't be feeling so irritable and depressed. There's only so much lying you can do to yourself before your subconscious notices it.
But, I also think you'd rather feel irritable and depressed than lonely and introspective, and so you'll keep on keeping on. You've been on here for many months, asking for the same advice and listing the same exact feelings and problems. I don't know what you're looking for. The only person who can move you along is you, but so far you've seemed unwilling to do that.
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