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Well, that was a lame DD

Really, jasminelorraine20? We were actually siding with you and no one said anything rude. What gives?

Re: Well, that was a lame DD

  • It was on RE first, and she dded it there, too.
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  • *cough* *cough* What, this one? *cough* *cough*

    03-20-2012 at 12:35 PM
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    Trust Issues

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    My bf and I just moved into our condo on Feb.1, we have a little boy that's due in June and we've been pretty happy and doing well living together. I have had no issues or concerns as far as trust until recently. On Saturday, he went to the club with his homeboys. The next day I notice a girl has text him that I never heard of before. I asked her who she was and she said an old friend of my boyfriend's "no disrespect meant". My bf keeps deleting her texts, I erased her number from his phone and noticed it's there again today and that she called him yesterday (it was a missed call). He assures me he will stop talking to her since it upsets me, but I'm just not sure. His behavior at home hasn't changed, he still is very affectionate towards me, he still leaves his phone around like its nothing, he comes home everynight on time. It's all so confusing. Am I overreacting? Advice please! 
     
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    That depends.  What was the text?

    If it was something inappropriate, then you need to talk to him about the contact and the content.  If it was something platonic and you deleted the contact info over it, then yes, you're over reacting.

    The context of the communication has a lot to do with whether or not you over reacted.


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    The text that I read was "I'm awake now. How about you?" Or something like that. Whatever it was, it was a reply to what he sent and it was deleted. I never heard of this girl before, he never mentioned her as his "friend" before. I expressed how I felt about it. Now, I'm just waiting to see what he will do.
     
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    What did you think erasing her # would do?

    Do you honestly think he mentioned EVERY single friend he has had in the past to you? Friend could be x girlfriend couldn't it?

    How old are you guys?

    Sounds like HE initiated the texts...did you ask why he deleted?

    You will need to wait, pay very close attention and keep an eye open to see if this is anything or not.


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    Right now, I'm leaning towards you overreacting.

    The fact that he is deleting some of the conversation make me think I maybe wrong. Does he normally delete parts of conversations, or only to this girl?


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    I'm caught on you looking at his text messages and responding to them if you don't recognize the number.

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    Recently it's seems to be only her texts deleted. But usually if ANY girl texts him he deletes it. This is just the most recent one.
     
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    Hell, I'm still stuck on "homeboys".

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    imagejasminelorraine20:
    Recently it's seems to be only her texts deleted. But usually if ANY girl texts him he deletes it. This is just the most recent one.
    Hmm I feel like I'm missing something here.

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    I know I am don't post here, but seriously, him deleting messages from all girls is weird to me.  What does it matter if he texts girls if there is nothing going on?  If he deletes messages that means he would like to hide something.  Not necessarily cheating, but I feel that deleting messages is meant to hide something.


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    imagejasminelorraine20:
    Recently it's seems to be only her texts deleted. But usually if ANY girl texts him he deletes it. This is just the most recent one.

     

    Generally I would think you're psycho and overreacting by going through his phone and responding to people.  But if he deletes all texts from all other women then I'd be suspicious and imagine there probably is something to be jealous about.


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    Hell, I'm still stuck on "homeboys".

     

    Me too. I lol'd at my desk.


    Oh, FFS.  
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    imagejasminelorraine20:
    Recently it's seems to be only her texts deleted. But usually if ANY girl texts him he deletes it. This is just the most recent one.

     

    Generally I would think you're psycho and overreacting by going through his phone and responding to people.  But if he deletes all texts from all other women then I'd be suspicious and imagine there probably is something to be jealous about.

     

     

    That was my first reaction too. But it sounds like her gut was telling her something.

     

    I had an ex that sounds oddly similar to your current BF. I dropped his ass on the curb like a hot potato. Dood was dirtier than a truck-stop bathroom.


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  • Moron.:(

    And whiny.
  • Family Matters caught a DD from her about yet another issue, and linked/screenshot several others from all over TN. Chick's got problems.
    Oh, FFS.
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