September 2009 Weddings
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About Engagements
The 10 years post got me thinking: I know we discussed this many times on TK days, but I'd like to hear it all again.
How long did you date your DH before being engaged?
How did he propose?
Do you think the timing was right? Wish you would have waited longer? Wish he would have done it sooner?
Re: About Engagements
We dated for a little over 2 years before he proposed. Our wedding anniversary is only 5 days away from our 3 year dating anniversary.
We went to Gatlinburg, a little mountain town in TN, the weekend before Christmas. He proposed standing on the side of a cliff overlooking the town's lights.
I think it was perfect timing. Visitng families for Christmas was extra exciting that year! If he had had the foresight to think about a summer wedding, he could have proposed earlier. I started planning a June wedding and decided there was no way I could do it in 6 months. That would have been more convenient, but then I wouldn't have been a Niner, so everything works out for the best.
We dated for 1 year and 4 months before we got engaged.
The proposal was a big surprise. We were going down to Little Rock to see Guy's grandpa, who has just had heart surgery. Guy suggested we stop and meet up with a friend at the bar where we first met. I didn't think anything of it because this particular town only has two bars. Anyway, so we got there and I walked over to meet our friend and Guy said he had to get something out of the car. We waited for him and I had my back turned, and then I heard him say my name. I turned around and he was on one knee. My initial thought was that he'd dropped something and I said "what the hell are you doing?" and then I realized that he was holding up a ring. He said the words and I said yes and then we cried.
I do think the timing was right. I'd had marriage on my mind for a couple of months at that point, and I knew he was the one. I'm glad he didn't make me wait too long.
We were dating for a year and a half before he proposed.
We went to Mohegan Sun for my birthday, and he had always said he was never a fan of proposing on holidays or other special events, so it never occurred to me that he was going to pop the question while we were away. But he sure did - we were lying in bed at the hotel the morning of my birthday, resting off our hangovers and shooting the sh!t as we were most comfy doing, and then out of no where (which turned out to be under the bed) he showed me the ring. It was private, it was us, and it was perfect.
I think the timing was fine. We had been talking about it for a little while, and we were already living together, so it we were in the right place.
updated 10.03.12
2 Years
It was on our 2 year anniversary (Jan 5, 2008) He sat in front of me with 3 flowers. Gave me the 1st one and said this is for our past, then the 2nd was for our present, and the 3rd had the ring tied to it and told me it was for our future. He then asked me if I would marry him (I think) I was too busy sobbing like baby to hear anything after seeing the ring.
Maybe we should have waited a few more months, but I wouldn't have changed anything and we probably still would have gotten married on the day we did.
We had been dating almost 5 years, he proposed in May and our dating anniversary was in September as well.
I was completely shocked. I knew that's where we were headed but I didn't think he would propose until I was about halfway done with law school. We had just decided to move in together and I was completely fine with that for the time being.
My parents took myself, Jay, our best friends and my now SIL to Disney World as my gift for my college graduation. The second day we were all there we spent the whole day at the Magic Kingdom. Jay got his wallet stolen and thankfully, unbeknownst to me, my mother had my ring. At night after the light parade we got spots and waited for the fireworks to start. Jay decided to go to the lost and found and see if anyone had turned in his wallet, but that was just a ruse. The fireworks started and I was starting to get pissy that he wasn't back because we love watching them together. But, then he came up behind me and wrapped his arms around me; I could feel his heart beating really fast but I thought he had just run so as to not miss the whole show. During the finale he turned me around, was on one knee (in different clothes!) and asked me to be his happy ever after, to which I responded "Are you kidding?!?!?" and then said yes. The ring was about 2 sizes too small so Jay licked my finger and we slid it on for symbolic purposes but then I took it off (my finger was turning purple) and wore it on my pinky the rest of the trip. People kept asking me if it was a new trend. It was amazing because so many people I love were there with us and then we got to spend the whole rest of the trip not only celebrating my graduation but out engagement too!
That got long, sorry. The timing ended up being perfect. I had 3 years to plan the wedding/finish law school which felt long at times but I really don't think I would have done it any other way. Plus, if we'd gotten married any sooner I wouldn't have been a Niner
We dated for 9 months before we got engaged. We got married after 13 months.
We were in the Finger Lakes for the weekend and after we went diamond mining, we went out to eat and when we got back to the B&B he said, "stand out here and look at the stars with me." and I was like, "No its cold. I'm going inside." And he was like "but I want to ask you something" and I was like, "You can talk to me inside. I'm going in." And then he got down on one knee and I felt like an azz haha.
I was ok with the timing. We got engaged in May and got married in September so we planned the wedding in 4 months, which was fine. The only thing was that we didnt live together until 2 months before the wedding and so with the wedding and buying a house and adjusting to living together, it was a lot of stress at once. I wouldnt do it over differently though.
We dated for 2 1/2 years.
He proposed in a dorm room, haha, kind of not romantic, after a good date (Wicked and dinner out). I loved what he said when he did it though!
I think the timing was right- in retrospect knowing we were going to be apart for 3 years, If it had been any longer, I am pretty sure with the stress of law school and distance we would have broken up if we hadn't been engaged and working towards a future together. If it had been any sooner I would have been a teenager and I'm against that on principle.
Stand up for something you believe in.
We were together for 2 years, 8 months before he proposed
We went on a surprise trip to Kennebunkport, ME. In retrospect, he was acting ridiculous before we left. This man traveled 90% of the time for work but was asking what he should pack, if his tie matched his pants..weird stuff. The first night, we got all dressed up and went out to dinner. I was in stiletto boots and went to reach for his arm to cross the dirt parking lot and he stepped away, thinking I was reaching for his pocket and I nearly fell down.
We got drinks, ordered appetizers, there was a guy on the piano playing things like Sister Christian and we were laughing about it. Then he started to play a Journey song and I asked Jon if he had slipped the guy money to play Journey for me and Jon said that no, he hadn't planned it that way, but since the timing seemed so perfect.....and then he was on one knee and I thought he was tying his shoe and it seemed weird and then I realized that he was saying things about how he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. And then I said yes before he was finished talking and cried the rest of the way through dinner.
I think the timing was perfect. He/We had just bought our condo and moved in and were settled into life together and it was great. I think we were both ready. I wanted him to do it sooner, but the way and the time that he did it was great. I wanted a September wedding anyway
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We were together about 3.5 years before he proposed, but the first year was long distance.
A bunch of our friends had all gotten engaged throughout the previous year and I was kind of peeved that he hadn't proposed yet. The day we got engaged I was up north doing a bridesmaids' dress fitting for BFF's wedding and her mom was asking if Ty and I would ever get married. I basically told her I'd given up thinking about it at that point.
When I got home, DH asked me about the dress and I was describing it and he asked what color it was. I told him it was purple and he said "Oh. Well, I got you something today but I don't know if it'll go with purple." And then he brought out the ring and showed it to me. I had no clue it was an engagement ring and reached for the box, but he pulled it away. He told me I couldn't have it yet, and I asked why (thinking, do I have to wait until BFF's wedding to wear it with my purple dress?), and he said "Because you haven't told me if you'll marry me yet."
We were engaged for 19 months, which felt like forever. Sometimes I wish we had gotten married sooner, although it did give us time to save up money so we could pay for everything ourselves.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
DH and I were dating for 3 years when we got engaged (we bought a house together 2 years in).
He proposed when we were in VT at his aunt's second home for a romantic getaway. I kind of knew it was coming (my bff got married the week before, and he had commented that he didn't want to steal her thunder) but he still caught me off guard. He did it as soon as we got to the house, while he was unpacking our food into the fridge. He was crouching down anyway, but then turned around and was holding up a ring. My reaction was "shut up!!!". Turns out he wanted to do it when we first got there and were admiring the sunset on the deck, but I had to pee really bad after the road trip so I didn't give him a chance!
The timing was perfect, I was getting antsy, but I am glad with the way it worked out. It was nice to live together and go through the stress of buying/remodeling a house first, then get engaged.
we had been dating 5 months when we got engaged but we had known each other since 6th grade. (although we weren't really friends)
We were Christmas shopping and I was going on and on about a friend who had just got engaged the day before and I was saying how she knew it was coming and he said I would never know when he would do it. We were walking along and all of a sudden he pulled out the ring. We then went to eat but I couldn't concentrate and we left to go tell everyone. We were married 9 months later.
I wasn't sure about the timing because I had been engaged once before after only dating 6 months and that didn't work out but something in my mind told me that this would work and I am glad it happened when it did.
We dated for 8 months when we got engaged.
He proposed late one night. I was working until 10 and doing a million things bc I was hosting his sister in laws baby shower the next day. I came home to find roses on the table and notes all over telling me what to do an where to go. For example the first one said "do you like me" "circle yes, no or maybe" and it went on from there an the last one said "will you marry me" and I opened the door and he was on his knee with the ring, all dressed up, flowers and candles everywhere. It was so sweet and very surprising.
I thought the timing was right. Our engagement was a little long but it was fine with me. I wouldn't change a thing!
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We were dating for just over 7 years.
He waited until the Celtics won the championship. We had tickets to opening night the following season where they would be given their rings. He proposed on that day - right before we left for the game. He said "Now that I have my ring, you can have yours." It was so us. It was kind of perfect.
I'd say the time was right. Yea.
We had been dating for a year and a half when Joel proposed but had known each other and been friend for about four years prior to that.
We started dating in September 2006 and he has taken me to Niagara Falls for my 21st birthday. So in may 2008 we planned a trip as a "pre-graduation get away" for Joel. Well really Joel planned it all. The second night we were there we ate at the restuarant in our hotel and we were planning to go for a walk after. I wanted to change out of my fancy dress and heels into something more comfortable for walking the mile down to the falls, Joel refused to change out of his dress clothes. We walked aroud for a while and were actually beginning to walk back (he was trying to find a more private place but there were so many people there that night!) we were holding hands and I felt a little tug as he dropped back behind me to tie his shoe, or so i thought until I saw the little box. He said sweet things, I said yes, he opened the box and put the ting on my finger and some random person took photos of us that we never were able to track down.
I think the timing was right. At that point I had been out of college for a year and he was graduating ina week and we had already been living together. I do wish we had had our wedding that same September because it would have saved so much money and drama that was just so unnecssary and I would have gotten my small intimate wedding instead of the large crazy church people filled wedding that excluded some of our good friends to make room for my il's friends even though we footed the bill with sone help from my parents.
We dated for 6 months, but had known each other for years.
He was picking me up from the airport when I returned from Argentina. He got down on one knee in the parking lot.
Sure, the timing worked. We're still young, we could have waited longer, but why wait? We're really happy now, and always look at our friends who are still dating and just think how glad we are that we're not messing with all that. Bleh.
Also, I feel like being married gave me the stability to focus on pursuing my career -- something I probably would not have done if I was single, because I'm flighty and if nobody else was counting on me to be responsible, I wouldn't be.
Just a little late to this:
How long did you date your DH before being engaged? We were together for almost 6 years
How did he propose? We had spent the day in Boston, and on our way stopped at the beach to watch some fireworks. When the fireworks started he proposed
Do you think the timing was right? Wish you would have waited longer? Wish he would have done it sooner? I thought the timing was right, we had talked about it and I knew he had the ring so I wasn't completely surprised. At the time I wished he had done it sooner, We got together when we were 18 & 19 and looking back now I'm glad we waited so long.
We had been dating just under a year (11 months) when he proposed. We got married around the 2.3 years mark.
We had been talking about marriage for a while. I told him that it was really important that he talked to my dad before asking me. He ended up asking me in front of my dad on a trip back home. After leaving my dad's house, we got in the car and he asked me if I was "going to change my Facebook status." I asked him why and he asked me to marry him. When we got back to CT, he got down on one knee and gave me a speech about how much he loved me and gave me my beautiful engagement ring. I couldn't be happier.
Looking back, I don't know why I was in such a rush. The timing was right though. We had a long distance relationship for the first 2 years.