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Marriage/couples counseling anyone?
I've finally convinced my husband to go after trying for pretty much a year and talking divorce. Anyone have any experience ? Did it work? What should I expect? I'm really nervous... Not sure if my expectations are realistic....
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Re: Marriage/couples counseling anyone?
If it took you a year to convince him to go with you, I wouldn't have very high hopes. I think marriage counseling can work only if both people are open and receptive to it.
I had a great counselor with XH, but it didn't help us stay together. I found it more gave me the voice to express my issues, and then say that I was done when I realized I was. It was emotional, but I found it easy to open up to her.
Well this is one reason I want to go. Part of me feels done and part of me isn't 100 percent comfortable with leaving until I've given it my all. We also have. 3 year old child so I have to try everything before I can throw in the towel. Thanks for the advice
That was my exact situation. It also took me a year to try and convince him by the time he finally agreed I was done. I did go for a few months just to go through the motions and say I tried everything, but that year put a nail in my marriage and all the counseling in the world would not have helped.
You know deep down if you are done or if you still think it could help. I knew it wouldnt, but went through with it. If that is what you need to do go for it, but dont kid yourself,.
I went for a year with my H, it worked wonders for our communication. First few sessions will be get-to-know-you and why-are-you-here? type questions. You only get out of it what you put in it.
As for your expectations? I would go in with out having any and just see how everything unfolds. Don't force anything, keep an open mind, and don't think of it as some type of magic wand. It takes work, from both parties, to see any significant change.
Thank you for that, i am looking to go with DH starting next month when our insurance kicks in again... and I am hoping that it will help us communicate like normal people. DH's Dad used to yell and have a temper with his mother and I think there are a lot of issues there. Of course I don't have any!
Just kidding. It would be great to work through issues on both our sides I think considering we have two beautiful little boys.
It will make you nervous because your talking to someone you dont know but a couple of visits and she should start to feel ok with opening up
It's good to go and see what can come out of it.. We went and still going at least once a month or if something comes up that we cant agree to in the relationship..
good luck!