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Sleeping Pills / Aids / Do I have to kill him?

Have any of you used sleeping pills or aids or any of that stuff?

I'm a fairly light sleeper and MH is the total opposite.  He's also something of a bed hog.  I get woken up regularly (as in at least once a night, sometimes multiple times a night) by him.  He does this... loud breathing... thing.  I don't want to call it snoring because it's not, but it's freaking loud, louder than the usual "sleeping person" noises.  Sometimes I get woken up because he's decided he wants to share a pillow and I'm getting morning breath blown at my face (it's charming).

Anyway, I already wear ear plugs and they help most of the time, but they're not doing enough.  I know this is entirely my issue when it comes to the low noise tolerance and I try not to be all ugly about it but dang it, I'm tired!

So please, if any of you have a trick... tell me.  I just want to make it through the night.

Re: Sleeping Pills / Aids / Do I have to kill him?

  • Nasal strips for him, white noise maker and a bigger bed for you? Kick him when he's all up on you. Hard.

    I'm a super light sleeper as well so a snoring/bed hogging partner makes me stabby. I use earplugs, fan for white noise,and a jab in the ribs/kick to the shins when I'm crowded.

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  • I'm a light sleeper and here are the things that help me:

    I don't drink coffee beyond my 8am cup, anything later than 11am and it interrupts my sleep.

    I don't look at my phone or watch TV about an hour before bed, I usually get in bed and read for 30-60 minutes before bedtime.

    Taking a hot shower/bath before bed also helps.

    I have taken melatonin and had some success and sometimes I just drink sleepytime tea or valerian root tea.

    Deep breathing/meditation exercises also have helped.

    My usual routine involves avoiding booze, eating dinner around 7:30pm with no snack before bed, having a sleepytime tea around 9:30 and getting in bed w/ a book. The melatonin made me feel a little groggy and crabby, but it might be worth a try.

    ETA - Also like SCC said, we keep a fan on in the background, which creates a white noise and that helps.

  • We have the ipod play delta wave sleep music over the tv speakers at night.
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  • I could have written this post myself.

    Nasal strips do not work for my H. I am an incredibly light sleeper (which really, really sucks), and I find myself taking Unisom more than I'd like just to get at least six hours a night. I tried earplugs but I'm not doing it right or something, they always hurt to wear. If it's really, really bad (and has been for a few days in a row) I will go sleep on the couch just to try to sleep interrupted.

    Oh, FFS.
  • Looks like it's time for white noise.  I'll grab a fan this weekend.  I guess I didn't believe it worked, but it's worth a try if it works for other people.

    I cannot wait to get a bigger bed.  Seriously we have to get out of this apartment in to a bigger place.  We've been sharing a double for 5 years now.  Neither of us is that big of a person so it works but just barely.  I have daydreams about pillow top Kings.

  • white noise really is the key. i take a fan with me when i travel, even.  i have a home fan and a small travel fan.  what's killing me lately is the trend towards "silent" fans.  box fans make the best noise.
  • imagefeinicstine:

      We've been sharing a double for 5 years now. 

    Yeahhhhh there's yer problem right thurr.

    Fan + earplugs + bigger bed should help a lot. Worked for me.

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  • He should have this checked out at a sleep disorder clinic. It also sounds like he's got a good case of sleep apnea also. I don't think snoring is a requisite for sleep apnea; his breathing doesn't sound normal.

    I am also wondering if he hasn't got something called restless leg syndrome.

    A full checkup by an MD would be a good idea. Let them rule out other problems with his health.
  • imagefeinicstine:

    I cannot wait to get a bigger bed.  Seriously we have to get out of this apartment in to a bigger place.  We've been sharing a double for 5 years now.  Neither of us is that big of a person so it works but just barely.  I have daydreams about pillow top Kings.

    We have a queen and it's just not big enough even though we are relatively small people! I also have daydreams about a king sized bed. I think it would help us both sleep a whole lot better.

  • We just got a king and it's so fantastic I can't even tell you.

    My H ended up just getting Ambien and using it when he really needs to get up the next day, so I'm not much help.

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