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In the beginning dating stage, how much do you see each other?
I don't want to take things super fast like I did with my exbf.
So...how often do you see the person you are dating and talk to them on the phone? (lets say the first 1-3 months you were dating/together). I know its different for everyone but thats why I would like to see everyone's responses! Thanks!
Re: In the beginning dating stage, how much do you see each other?
I'm guilty of often moving too fast, so I'm probably not the best one to answer, but with D (the guy I'm currently seeing), we chatted every day for about three weeks, then had our first date last Friday. We didn't talk a lot on Saturday, but enjoyed ourselves so much that we got together again on Sunday. We've chatted every day this week, and we're getting together again tomorrow, and are already planning things for next week.
So...um...I guess pretty often?
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
It varies according to relationship, so I'll just go with my current one.
We've only talked on the phone I think 3 times in the 2 months we've been dating. Neither of us are big phone people. However, we don't let a full day go by without at least one text, just to let each other know that we're not dead in a ditch somewhere.
As far as seeing each other, we get together at least 3 evenings a week. We try to do an overnight and/or a full day every other week, too, depending on his visitation with his kids. (We've had 4 overnights in 8 weeks.) We've had a couple of weeks where we've seen each other 5 nights.
But, both of us are more introverted homebodies, so spending one on one time is more enjoyable for us than going out and hanging out with a bunch of other people. His best friend is his roommate, so he doesn't neglect his friendships, and my best friend lives a couple of hours away, so I'm used to not seeing her much.
We like how it's going, and can see each other more or less, depending on what's going on, and we're fine with it.
I agree with this. Everyone is different and every relationship is different. With the current guy, we have been dating for about 3 months. We RARELY talk on the phone. We both hate it. I think we've talked once and it was because we needed to make a decision about something really quickly and texting would take too long. We do text daily and we see each other 2-3 days a week and 99% of the time, they are overnights. I, personally, need my space and I stay pretty busy with my friends so any more than 2-3 days in a week and I would get a little burned out. I'm sure that will change as we get more serious, but I prefer things to go kind of slow so anything more than we have now would be too much for me.
BF and I saw each other almost ever day. That being said, we were part of the same group of friends and met through a hobby that we (and our friends) enjoy, so neither one of us was neglecting our friends or our own hobbies to hang out, which is one of my favorite things about our relationship!