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Appropriate Gift for Mom

I am pregnant, and the Godmother of my son-to-be is throwing me a babyshower, along with the help from mom. However, my cousin (the godmother) works at JC Penney and does not make a lot of money. Therefore, it's come to my attention that my mom has taken over the majority of the responsibilities and is doing pretty much everything. From ordering the cake, to ordering the foods, and running around town planning everything for this event. I want to thank her at my babyshower and give her a meaningful thank-you gift, but with her birthday two weeks after, I'm having a hard time coming up with ideas for her. Would it be out of line to only present my mother with a gift since she's doing everything, or should I do the same for the Godmother of my baby as well?
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Re: Appropriate Gift for Mom

  • It is never out of line to give your mother a gift :)

    How about a gift certificate for a manicure/pedicure? flowers? massage?

    A thank you card is good enough for cousin. just dont give your mother the gift at the shower do it at another time. your cousing will not have to know.



  • If your cousin is the one officially throwing the shower even if your mom is doing much of the work in the background, I don't think it would be very nice to publicly thank your mother and give her a gift at the shower and not do the same for your cousin. 

     

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  • This one is so easy...a gift from the baby, you could even give to her in front of everyone (well maybe not if MIL will be there)

    basically lots of grandma stuff

  • If your cousin is the one "hosting" it, even if your mom is doing all the work, it would be rude to not give her a gift also. (I'm assuming you mean you would present the gift at the actual party, in front of everyone though. If you'll be doing it privately at a later time, thank you card for the cousin, and gift for mom would be fine.)
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  • I agree with pp. As long as you do not give the gift in front of your cousin then you can give her anything you want.

    What is your mom into? Could you give her a gift that would involve the little one?

    A spa day/manicure/pedicure type gift would be a good idea. 

    A gift certificate to a nice restaurant or you could take her out to a nice dinner.

    A couple picture frames that say Grandma on them or something like that, you could put an ultrasound pic in one of the frames maybe? 

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  • I like the ultrasound in a frame idea, I never thought of that. Thank you for the advice. I will give my mom and cousin something nice. Two ultrasounds- one in a godmother frame and one in a grandma frame. That works. Thanks everyone!
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