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Re: 31,000 + views....HOLY MOSES!!

  • There does not exist a term negative enough to describe some of the posters on that board.  I will just keep it PG and call them miserable, nasty, and ignorant.
  • Link fail. What was it?

     

    Not Found: Forum Not Found
    The forum you requested does not exist. 

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  • Looks like maybe it was deleted?  I get a "forum not found" when I click the link.  Or maybe it's just my nest...it seems to be acting up more than normal recently!
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  • No, I think it was DD'ed. I was on page 4 when I went to go to page 5 and it disappeared.
    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • Was it from BNOTB?  I read it yesterday.  That girl is a rotten hollow core of what is a waste of space in this world.  And I don't talk like or feel that way about anybody.  I hope she was being that ugly just to show off or try to be cool, because I hope nobody in real life can be that callous, cold and empty.
    Pregnancy Ticker People are placed in and taken out of our lives for a multitude of reasons. My faith has me looking upward so I might stay on my path, forward to reach my future and to either side for the ones to walk near me on my journey.
  • Can we get a Cliff Notes of the thread? Curious minds want to know Stick out tongue
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  • imagePrettyInPearls23:
    Can we get a Cliff Notes of the thread? Curious minds want to know Stick out tongue

    Yes

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  • imagePrettyInPearls23:
    Can we get a Cliff Notes of the thread? Curious minds want to know Stick out tongue

    Cliff notes:

    Chick wants to join BNOTB. She has 2 lines in her sig that refer to the fact that she lost 2 babies, one fairly recently.

    First response to her request to "join" the board states that she will only be "accepted" if she takes the 2 lines out of her sig because she doesn't want to be reminded of "dead babies"

    Shiit storm ensues. Over 7 pages and 199 responses worth.

    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • imagePrettyInPearls23:
    Can we get a Cliff Notes of the thread? Curious minds want to know Stick out tongue

    If it's what I'm thinking...

    A girl introduced herself to BNOTB.  Her siggy includes 2 losses of her sons both at 20 weeks pg.  Her introduction said she and her DH were not planning on TTC anymore after the losses were so hard on them and that she wanted a forum that didn't include any talk of babies.  Her last loss was less than two months ago where they had to have services for the baby and everything.  I tear up now thinking about it...

    The first post responding to her told her that if she wanted to post on that board, the only way she would be accepted by her was to change her siggy.  Things blew up from there, mostly from the awful beast who first responded and she ended up changing her siggy to some dead cat and it was just so upsetting and inhumane and awful.  The whole thing. 

    I feel so sorry for the OP and she handled herself really well.  There were supportive girls on there, but I still thought it was devastating to read so I quit.

    Pregnancy Ticker People are placed in and taken out of our lives for a multitude of reasons. My faith has me looking upward so I might stay on my path, forward to reach my future and to either side for the ones to walk near me on my journey.
  • PS--good find, JM. I am sitting through on online webinar (boring!) and that helped me waste some time Yes

    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • Wow....just wow. There really are no words. Was the evil, cruel poster a regular or was it a newb?
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  • imagePrettyInPearls23:
    Wow....just wow. There really are no words. Was the evil, cruel poster a regular or was it a newb?

    No, think she was pretty regular. It got ugly though because she then put something in her sig about her cat that died. I *think* she also posted some pics of dead babies but I can't be sure. I also *think* she put something in her sig about being raped but again, not positive.

    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • imagedmarie979:

    imagePrettyInPearls23:
    Wow....just wow. There really are no words. Was the evil, cruel poster a regular or was it a newb?

    No, think she was pretty regular. It got ugly though because she then put something in her sig about her cat that died. I *think* she also posted some pics of dead babies but I can't be sure. I also *think* she put something in her sig about being raped but again, not positive.

    Yeah, this was her new siggy till she changed it

    imagealabaster_angel:

    I never knew my father.
    I was raped in 2001.
    My cat died in 2003.
    I got my first wheelchair in 2007.
    But for the love of GOD I do NOT want to talk about it.. so don't even ask.

    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • I heard about it on the other boards, but I didn't know who the rotten hollow core of a human being was. I thought for a minute you were talking about the girl with the sig, and I was really confused. I was given the impression that there was something of a pile-on with a lot of people attacking the girl with the sig.

    ...To the point where it spilled over onto other boards and you ended up with things like:
    "Who's NOT watching Hunger Games tonight?"
    "I'm seeing it on Tuesday"
    "I have tickets for Saturday."
    "I don't like crowds, so I'll wait."
    "I can't believe you were part of that awfulness on BNOTB! You're evil!"
    "Yeah, that was totally uncool."
    "I'm going to see it Sunday when my friend is back in town."
    "I wasn't being awful! You totally misunderstood my post!"
    "Blah blah blah"
    "blah blah blah!"
    "I'm going to see it next week."
    "Evil!"

    It was all very surreal. 

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  • I read it yesterday and it was very disturbing and horrible. I do think the OP handled herself very well. Some things at the end were moderated out. Maybe the Mod deleted it. It was that horrible.
  • Ya, I read that clusterf*ck and some of its spinoffs yesterday.  Apparently Alabaster had a blog, which someon found and posted a link to, so she deleted the blog, but the Google cache version is still there, of course (and there's probably a Google cache version of the thread, as well), so people have been reading that.  She had linked to her FB page once upon a time, so people found THAT.  Apparently there's a Myspace page, too?  Anyways, the internet vigilantes are busy exacting justice.
  • imagemarigoldgirl44:
    I read it yesterday and it was very disturbing and horrible. I do think the OP handled herself very well. Some things at the end were moderated out. Maybe the Mod deleted it. It was that horrible.

    I saw several people PMing the Mod today; that was my assumption that they requested it be removed.

    Pregnancy Ticker People are placed in and taken out of our lives for a multitude of reasons. My faith has me looking upward so I might stay on my path, forward to reach my future and to either side for the ones to walk near me on my journey.
  • imageGilliC:

    I heard about it on the other boards, but I didn't know who the rotten hollow core of a human being was. I thought for a minute you were talking about the girl with the sig, and I was really confused. I was given the impression that there was something of a pile-on with a lot of people attacking the girl with the sig.

    The OP (Figg something or other) was new to BNOTB but not to TN. The first poster (Alabaster Angel-or something like that) was the one that said Figg has to change her siggy because the board was specific to BNOTB. The shitt storm was 2 sided: one group agreeing with AA stating that they shouldn't be "reminded" of babies and the other group stating that Figg didn't even bring up babies, it was just in her sig so it shouldn't matter.

    The sig I reposted was from another post that AA started, attempting to be funny(??).

    Make sense?

    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • imagedmarie979:
    imageGilliC:

    I heard about it on the other boards, but I didn't know who the rotten hollow core of a human being was. I thought for a minute you were talking about the girl with the sig, and I was really confused. I was given the impression that there was something of a pile-on with a lot of people attacking the girl with the sig.

    The OP (Figg something or other) was new to BNOTB but not to TN. The first poster (Alabaster Angel-or something like that) was the one that said Figg has to change her siggy because the board was specific to BNOTB. The shitt storm was 2 sided: one group agreeing with AA stating that they shouldn't be "reminded" of babies and the other group stating that Figg didn't even bring up babies, it was just in her sig so it shouldn't matter.

    The sig I reposted was from another post that AA started, attempting to be funny(??).

    Make sense?

    Yes Yup! Thanks!

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  • I read that yesterday... someone said that it went viral too, c&p'ed outside of thenest/thebump hence the 31k views
  • image+Black Kitty+:
    I read that yesterday... someone said that it went viral too, c&p'ed outside of thenest/thebump hence the 31k views

    Yeah I heard that too. As well as people finding her FB page and emailing her DH's boss about what she said (lol).... Oh and we thought we had drama on this board last week!!

    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • imagedmarie979:

    image+Black Kitty+:
    I read that yesterday... someone said that it went viral too, c&p'ed outside of thenest/thebump hence the 31k views

    Yeah I heard that too. As well as people finding her FB page and emailing her DH's boss about what she said (lol).... Oh and we thought we had drama on this board last week!!

    New level of crazy

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    imagenyg&p:

    imagePrettyInPearls23:
    Can we get a Cliff Notes of the thread? Curious minds want to know Stick out tongue

    If it's what I'm thinking...

    A girl introduced herself to BNOTB.  Her siggy includes 2 losses of her sons both at 20 weeks pg.  Her introduction said she and her DH were not planning on TTC anymore after the losses were so hard on them and that she wanted a forum that didn't include any talk of babies.  Her last loss was less than two months ago where they had to have services for the baby and everything.  I tear up now thinking about it...

    The first post responding to her told her that if she wanted to post on that board, the only way she would be accepted by her was to change her siggy.  Things blew up from there, mostly from the awful beast who first responded and she ended up changing her siggy to some dead cat and it was just so upsetting and inhumane and awful.  The whole thing. 

    I feel so sorry for the OP and she handled herself really well.  There were supportive girls on there, but I still thought it was devastating to read so I quit.

    Exactly.  I couldn't get past the 2nd page of replies... it was disturbing.  To think that anyone could be so cruel...internet stranger or not... just repulses me.

  • I am a lurker on the loss board because I am not ready to tell my story yet. FIGGS has been through hell and for anyone to post that stuff to her is horrible. 
  • Unfortunately, it's nothing new for the Nest. I've seen way worse. Like way way worse.
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  • I missed it.  I lurk/post ocassionally over there too. I don't know what was said but Alabaster Angel is a regular who has a couple kids herself.  So you she wanted OP to change her siggy because it mentions babies? Doesn't even make sense.

    "You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness."
  • imagekjewell:

    So you she wanted OP to change her siggy because it mentions babies? Doesn't even make sense.

    The OP has a siggy with info regarding 2 babies that were stillborn. AA said that she should take them out because the board is Babies Not on the Brain and how can OP be suitable for that board when her siggy had "dead baby" info in it i.e. she still had babies on the brain. Make sense?

    2011 Races
    3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
    5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
    5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
    5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
    7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
    10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
  • imagedmarie979:
    imagekjewell:

    So you she wanted OP to change her siggy because it mentions babies? Doesn't even make sense.

    The OP has a siggy with info regarding 2 babies that were stillborn. AA said that she should take them out because the board is Babies Not on the Brain and how can OP be suitable for that board when her siggy had "dead baby" info in it i.e. she still had babies on the brain. Make sense?

    Right I get that.  What I don't get is how AA could be so anti-(stillborn)baby siggy when she has children herself and at one point even had her siggy set as a picture of her with one of the kids.  She regularly posted on BNOTB with a siggy pic of her child and no one told her to change it because we didn't want to see her kid.

    hypocritical much?

    "You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness."
  • imagekjewell:
    imagedmarie979:
    imagekjewell:

    So you she wanted OP to change her siggy because it mentions babies? Doesn't even make sense.

    The OP has a siggy with info regarding 2 babies that were stillborn. AA said that she should take them out because the board is Babies Not on the Brain and how can OP be suitable for that board when her siggy had "dead baby" info in it i.e. she still had babies on the brain. Make sense?

    Right I get that.  What I don't get is how AA could be so anti-(stillborn)baby siggy when she has children herself and at one point even had her siggy set as a picture of her with one of the kids.  She regularly posted on BNOTB with a siggy pic of her child and no one told her to change it because we didn't want to see her kid.

    hypocritical much?

    It's ok because she's a reg. It's part of the "rules" over there. Though it doesn't really matter anymore since TN officially banned her today. Just when you think you run the show on an Internet message board, the Nest Gods put you in your place.

    She'll be back with a new name eventually. The majority of that board would do well to GBCN in solidarity though.

    If you want a recap, ML and TIP have a few posts on the topic. 

    This is my siggy.
  • I don't get why the OP stuck around. Obviously AA was just ridiculous and being cruel for no reason, why bother putting up with it?
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