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Is this normal or hilarious (re: wedding registry)
So I'm going to a wedding in England in a few weeks and figured I'd get the gift sorted out now. In the invite, they sent a code for their John Lewis registry. I logged in and they have registered for gift vouchers, that's it! I think it's one of the funniest things I've ever seen.
Our other friends getting married registered for a honeymoon so I don't have an inherent problem with basically registering for money. It just seems hilarious to me to go to the trouble to set up a registry and literally have 'vouchers' on it.
To clarify - most of my friends are academics and therefore move around a lot. I didn't think I'd see a traditional registry with service for 12, but this still struck me as being really, really funny.
TTC #1 since Aug 2010 * BFP Aug 2011, EDD April 16 2012 * MMC @ 7w5d, D&C @ 10w5d
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks, Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks, Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks
Re: Is this normal or hilarious (re: wedding registry)
Is tacky an option?
That said, I really hated doing my registry because we were moving to the UK ten days after our wedding. Basically, 'stuff' was a pretty terrible gift idea. Many people knew this and gave us cash, but some people really wanted to buy us an object, most of which is in storage and we will use on our return to the States.
Is that all they registered for? When I registered the people at the store suggested I register for gift cards so people know that I'm ok with receiving them. But, we also registered for other things.
ETA: Just re-read your post. Wow. That's all they registered for. I think that's weird.
Weird. If they don't want physical gifts, I think it's perfectly appropriate not to give registry info at all.
Would knowing more about John Lewis change my opinion? What is it? A fancy department store? One of those empires that has a store/travel agency/supermarket/etc.?
Is this like saying, "Gift vouchers are fine, but only from this store?"
And yeah... if you're okay with vouchers for that store, why not pick out a few of the things you would be buying with the vouchers?
Maybe this is their subtle way of registering for monetary gifts? Like you're supposed to see that and say, "Ah, they really just want cash." Or they're worried that someone will go from store to store trying to find out where they're registered, and if they don't find any they'll buy an ugly vase or something?
I guess it's most similar to a Macy's? It's a big department store.
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks, Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks
This is what I was thinking. A British friend of mine was saying that it's not too common to give cash as a wedding gift. So if there is no registry at all, people will probably purchase a gift, which inevitably the couple doesn't want or need. And if they do move around a fair amount, maybe they didn't want to register for specific items and then have to store then until they settle down. But they will actually use those vouchers in the future on a somewhat permanent home.
So, while I think it is a bit tacky and odd, I'd probably give them the benefit of the doubt on it.
Cecilia arrived 12 October 2012
That's really odd.
I'm guessing they want cash but couldn't find out a way around asking directly for it. A friend of mine and her fianc? (now husband) created a separate bank account and a webpage with all the info so that guests could make their deposits. This is common in Italy. I think it would have been better to do something like this. Or maybe create a registry with those all-you-can-think-of registry websites like depositagift.com
In the states I would definitely find this tacky for sure. I totally understand why they don't want to register for 'stuff' - they are really casual people anyway and will both be finishing their current postdocs shortly with no idea where they're going next. But to put a registry website on their email that links to that just cracked me up for ages.
Am glad I'm not alone in finding it funny/strange... was wondering if this was just another example of a British tradition I managed to misunderstand entirely!
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks, Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks