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I seriously love this post....it was C&Pd on money
I wish I had originally found this gem but.... wow!
well that threw me for a loop. RE: IL's
so my IL's came over today to pick up and drop off some stuff, and as MIL and I were sitting in the sun chatting, she asks me "Have you figured out who you'll have do the daycare?"
Now, I was literally floored when she asked me this because DH has been reassuring me for *years* that his parents will be our caregivers at least through the first two years of our child's life, and it never occurred to me to think otherwise. I looked at her and said "Well, we were hoping you all were going to be the primary caregivers for your first grandbaby". She looked at me all surprised and said "Daily?! Oh no, that's too much, I just don't know about that. We'll certainly help, but..."
Wowzers.
Later the conversation involved my FIL and DH, FIL says "Oh yes, I'm ready to babysit", and MIL still raises her eyebrows. She then interjects that "Surely you can find a reasonable daycare, we only paid $80 a month for *DH*, although I thought that was high". DH looked at her, laughed, shook his head and said "If you thought that was high I can't imagine what you'd think of the one-two hundered rates a week I've been pricing recently".
She kind of changed her tune after that and said "Well we'll help you through the hurdle", and I said "what's that mean?", she said "Till they go to school".
Cheeseandrice. I'm sorry, I need to vent for just a sec now. What in goodness name's are they going to do OTHER THAN take care of our child?! They're both fully retired (she has been for a really really long time, FIL just within the past year), and they fill their days with trips to walmart, naps, and the town gossip.
I'm scared as all get out now. Already knowing what I know is going to happen to my paycheck next year, this may reverse my decision to not take four weeks unpaid. I mean, hell if we have to pay for childcare, on top of insurance for the baby, ontop of my decreased paycheck...I guess we'll be eating ramen noodles, baked potatoes, macaroni and cheese, and drinking powdered milk to make it through a few years.
I'm trying to NOT let my brain spin out of control and trying hard to follow DH's request to "just let it be for a while" but sh!t maria I'm scared now...just never saw this curveball coming...
Re: I seriously love this post....it was C&Pd on money
Link to the money post (includes original link)
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/64553727.aspx
Wow this poster is a piece of work? What else are the IL parents going to DO? Enjoy their retirement that they worked hard for, you idiot. Sure, its nice if they'll babysit for a date-night, but daily?
Honestly, it sounds like her H was setting her up for disappointment, and they should have ironed that out LONG before getting KU.
Holy entitlement!
she never saw the curve ball coming?
The curve ball being she had to take care of her own child?
Oooookayyyy
Oh wow, the entitlement is astounding. Retired does not mean at your beck and call lady!
Given, my mother and XMIL watch DS for me and XH so we do not need daycare. However, we asked that early on and knew they could easily say no. And wea re grateful they do (my XMIL even git upset because she felt she doesn't get as much time as my parents do)
Holy entitlement issues, Batman! How dare the grandparents enjoy their hard-earner retirement however they daamnwell please.
I love that the sense of entitlement goes so deep that not only did she never even think to ask the ILs, but now that they're not willing to take a second job as charity childcare, she's offended.
Wow.
Even if it is MUD, it kept me entertained for a bit.