Starting Over
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Online Dating...
Do you really not message the guys first? If you do, what do you say in a first message? I wish dating was easier. At least on Match (which I did not do well with before), you can wink at someone, and at least that 'might' get the ball rolling, but on the free ones, you don't really have that ability.
"Everything happens for a reason, people change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so you can appreciate them when they're right, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can come together." ~Marilyn Monroe
Re: Online Dating...
Can we add this to the unwritten rules of dating? That it doesn't matter who contacts who first, if it doesn't matter to you?
In other words if you're the type of woman who feels comfortable making the first move, and the person you're contacting is the type of person who WOULDN'T feel comfortable, you probably wouldn't want to date them anyway.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Word.
I don't doubt that you did. But whatever you read was written by someone who wasn't comfortable being in a relationship where women make the first move. If that's the type of woman you are, then take that advice. If YOU are comfortable making the first move, however, then ignore it and rest assured that there are men out there who are perfectly comfortable, or even more than comfortable, with women making the first move.
"You don't get to be all puke-face about your kid shooting your undead baby daddy when all you had to do was KEEP HIM IN THE FLUCKING HOUSE, LORI!" - doctorwho
Duly noted
Thank you for the insight!
Yep, this. You can even be the one to ask for the first date. I do it, but when I do I usually say something like, "Let's just remember who asked who out first." Every single guy has responded positively to that and laughed...and then we've gone out.
This.
It goes right along with my advice to just be yourself. If you are the kind of woman who would approach a man in real life, than you shouldn't have a problem initiating contact virtually either.