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Karma train, you can arrive anytime now (long)
I just got some bad news in the mail this weekend. Awhile back XH requested to have his CS modified (lowered) because he cannot make the current payments and chip away at the back support he owes at the same time (ummm, oh well, you made your bed).
Anyways, I had submitted my paperwork along with a letter stating why he SHOULD still have to pay the current amount. I cited different pieces of evidence backing this up, including bank account statements, a picture of his new truck, as well as copies of criminal court fees he's paid. I also stated that he's been paying the current amount, on time each month without hesitation so why is this all of a sudden the problem.
Well, long story short, I got the paperwork back and they found that his CS should be cut by more than half. I don't know if they even looked at anything I submitted at all, of just that he declared he makes only $1,400 a month (which is completely not true).
I am so sick over this. I have a call into my attorney to see if there's anything I can do to appeal. It just seems like no matter what, he always seems to get away with doing the wrong thing. I did tell him exactly how I felt about him and told him that any kind of a father and a man would not be doing what he's doing. I said "you're lying and you know it and I know it, I hope you can live with yourself". I doubt it did any good but at least I feel better. I really wish that the karma train would show up for him, at some point in time. I know life isn't fair, but really, this is ridiculous.
Re: Karma train, you can arrive anytime now (long)
He disgusts me, on so many levels.
I really, really hope there's a way you can appeal this. I wonder how those slimeballs at the CS office can sleep at night knowing they're letting DB's like this get away with this BS.
Well he's self employed. He basically just stated his income was $1,400/month and that was that. No proof, nothing. He hasn't even filed a tax return since 2009.
That is just crappy! I am so sorry.
Can't you report him to the IRS if he is not honestly reporting his income?
This I'd do it. Screw waiting for the karma train. Do whatever you can to speed it up in pulling into the station!
I just HATE how I keep hearing from the ladies I "know" (achase, PNP, others and myself) how these "men" look at child support as a punishment. How they do not want to step up and actually support their kid.
Yes, it is great that he is testing clean and has been keeping up with visits. BUT honeslty those who have had to support a child full time financially can tell you how much having a kid costs. In these cases the ex-H's planned for a child, were excited for the child and yet now want to avoid paying CS or want the amount to be as low as possible even if they can afford much more.
It makes my heart hurt to have heard so many times a guy say "Have fun with my money!" or "I give YOU a chunk of my paycheck." No, you are supporting your kid. Daycare in most areas averages $1000 a month alone! Not to mention food, clothing, medical and misc expenses (swim lessons, sports).
I remember my X screaming at me on the phone while discussing our divorce/CS because My BFF asked for $500 a month for watching DD... that is HALF of what I would pay anywhere else! Yet he thought I was inflating the price to get more money in CS...
Sorry for the rant! It just makes me so sad. It is not about the the parents, it is about the child. Stupid SD!
THIS!!!