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I am irrationally annoyed
I am irrationally annoyed by a whole bunch of things. (I guess this post is mostly a vent)
1. My brother "forgot" to tell me he and his kids would be here this week.
2. My narcissistic parents said, "We are going to xyz restaurant at abc time to celebrate your birthday if you want to come." I just found that very odd. It is very nice of them to invite me out, but I would have liked a say in the restaurant choice.
3. Brother, kids, and my parents went to a theme park yesterday. I love theme parks. They know this. I wasn't invited.
4. I was invited to the beach with them today. The beach is not my favorite place midday especially with 92857 spring break people.
5. My new job basically just admitted they hired too many people. I love my job. I haven't been let go yet but can read between the lines. The job search never ends.
6. Stupid check I deposited on Friday night won't post until tonight. I guess I should have known this.
Thanks for reading and letting me vent.
Re: I am irrationally annoyed
I don't think those are irrational. I completly feel you with the bday thing. My mom called my sister and I and asked us to come clean her cellar on April 15th (that is my bday btw). so my sister says "well I don't mind but you need to ask C if its okay, its her bday" to which my mom replied "Well I can have a cake for her after but this needs to be done"
I wanted to SCREAM
I would tell her to pick another day or do it without me. No freaking way lady.
I wouldn't say you're "irrationally" annoyed. I'd say you're "justifiably" annoyed.
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1. My brother declined an invitation to my son's first birthday party. He claimed he had an archery banquet to attend. The doors at said banquet didn't open until 6:00 and the banquet itself didn't start until 7:30 pm. My son's party was a noon and lasted about 2 hours.
2. My narcissistic dad said, "We are going to have dinner for [family member] to celebrate their birthday if you want to come." F?ck no I don't want to come. I haven't had a birthday dinner at your house since I turned 9.
3. Brother, kids, and my dad went to a theme park yesterday. I love theme parks. They know this. I wasn't invited.
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I tweaked 1 and 2 a little, but yeah, they've gotten me with #3 too.
Aaron's birthday party was the final straw for me. My brother no longer exists and I only see my dad on major holidays.
http://pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi#general
You don't have to scream; you can say no at your usual volume.
I say this with no snark at all. Thank you for asking this. I have been realizing the past few months that my relationship with my family is not what I thought it was. I am trying to accept this, but it isn't easy. I am glad people don't think I am being irrational. Now I have to learn to trust my gut and not have to ask other people if I am justified to be annoyed.
Yeah, I'm w/ the others. Not irrational at all.
And I hope to #2 you said "Oh, sorry. I can't make it".
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Julie, Happy belated Birthday!
If I were in your shoes, I'd keep some distance from my family and every time they do or say something crazy, confront them about it. They may get all pissy but at least you are trying to make yourself heard. I say that, but yeah, i'd probably just distance myself from them.