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If you did mediation...
Can you tell me what to expect?
We have our first mediation appointment thursday. Im nervous but looking forward to getting the process started.
How long did everything take from start to finish?
Re: If you did mediation...
It just depends on your situation. Generally they take you in separately, especially if there is a history of violence or anything of that sort. They made XH wait in a separate room at one point because I was nervous around him.
They took me in first and then him, and then us together. We reached a decision so it went fairly well. I think, if a decision cannot be made, the mediator will take everything that both parties have told him/her and write up a recommendation based on that.
I was told to have a list with three columns. One that you are in agreement with, one list of things you could bend on, and one where you will not give in no matter what.
Achase is right in that if there is a history of abuse in the relationship (whether verbal or physical) you will most likely get the option to do the mediation without having to be in the same room. I took advantage of that option.
In our case, we didn't reach an agreement but the only thing that came out of the mediation was the mediator's confirmation that we didn't reach an agreement. He didn't offer any opinions or bother to tell the judge that Ex is BSC. It was a waste of our time.
We actually agree on most things which is a blessing and there is no history of any abuse. We hope to make this quick and easy and hoping that mediator will give us direction on what to do with our house (the only problematic issue).
Im hope to get this done and over with as fast as possible.