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Just got into with my mom about FB pics
I'm kind of a maniac about who has access to my kid's pics on FB. If you've seen them there, then let it be known that I gave that a lot of thought beforehand (no shade intended). But I know I'm a maniac. I also always get permission from the parents when I post pics where other people's kids are also in the shot, and usually people have no problem because...well, they know I'm a maniac.
That said, my mom's FB settings are crap, as are the settings of most of my family members. Most of them have it set to "everyone in the entire godforsaken world can see your life". I can't control when the rest of my family takes pics of DD and posts them because I'm not friends them all and I don't know what they do and I just hope for the best. But my mom is posting baby pics of me and pics of DD and tagging us all over the place and she doesn't know how to use privacy settings and I hate it.
So I just told her I would fix her settings and told her that the whole thing just makes me uncomfortable. To which she said I'm the meanest daughter (nothing new there) because I'm keeping her from doing something everyone else does (as always) which is share pics of their child and grandchild. I didn't say she couldn't, I just said to be careful, which I know she's not.
She even took it way back to a decade ago when I made her put away a picture in her home she had displayed of me and my ex-boyfriend before my now-husband came over to visit. She still doesn't understand why I made that request.
Am I crazy? Be honest.
Re: Just got into with my mom about FB pics
You have every right to control as best you can who has access to your child's picture so in that sense you are right. But I guess I'm wondering what's your fear here and how legitimate that fear that it's worth keeping your mom from sharing her grandchild's picture if she wants to. Or rather worth either not sharing pics with her or having this argument repeatedly since she seems to be incapable of respecting your wishes.
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Just blur out the faces in the pics, and she can share away. I keed, I keed...
Bottom line: your kids, your rules. Maybe you could make a separate Flickr account or something that's locked down to where she can view but can't share?
And/or share some true and scary stories about what some people are capable of doing with children's pictures. Hasn't there been at least two instances where Nesties/Bumpies have falsely touted other people's kids as their own? Bazonkers.
Not crazy. Thankfully my mom and other family don't really do the picture posting thing, she just has an account to look at the ones we post. I'm quite sure they wouldn't be able to navigate the maze that is Facebook security settings.
And I've been trying to get my mom to put away a prom picture of me and an ex for over 10 years which she refuses because she says it's a good picture of me. (Which it's not, totally looks like a shotgun wedding picture)
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